Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Okay guys, here's a question I've got. Right now, I'm having a bit of a hard time.

What I mean is, I know some girls that I really wanna bang, but I don't know how to get sex from her. Well, the catch is, I think she used to fancy me, but then things changed, and she moved on, and now I can't seem to have any luck.

Is there any way I can reignite things? Now you see, this girl who I want is into some other guy really obsessively, which makes it a little bit tricky, but I know that she did used to like me quite a bit. Now I don't really speak to her so much (sometimes she does small things to get my attention like pulling on my jacket if I am nearby, or we exchange a few words), and she takes ages to respond to me on IM. I know a few times she says things like, she'll just randomly talk about her underwear she's wearing, or do something that, but then pulls out if I try to go with it.

Do you have any advice for me that can help me to get sex from her in this situation? Much appreciated, it'd be sweet if I could "get some" off her. Cheers.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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2-D said:
Okay guys, here's a question I've got. Right now, I'm having a bit of a hard time.

What I mean is, I know some girls that I really wanna bang, but I don't know how to get sex from her. Well, the catch is, I think she used to fancy me, but then things changed, and she moved on, and now I can't seem to have any luck.

Is there any way I can reignite things? Now you see, this girl who I want is into some other guy really obsessively, which makes it a little bit tricky, but I know that she did used to like me quite a bit. Now I don't really speak to her so much (sometimes she does small things to get my attention like pulling on my jacket if I am nearby, or we exchange a few words), and she takes ages to respond to me on IM. I know a few times she says things like, she'll just randomly talk about her underwear she's wearing, or do something that, but then pulls out if I try to go with it.

Do you have any advice for me that can help me to get sex from her in this situation? Much appreciated, it'd be sweet if I could "get some" off her. Cheers.
There's not enough information here to help you out.

This is like coming in to a movie an hour and a half after it's already started and trying to figure out what's going on.

Answer a couple of questions...

1)How long have you known this girl?
2)Do you and her talk often? And if so,what kinds of things do you talk about? (Be exact on this).
3)Have you ever ask her out on a date?
4)This other guy she's into,how do YOU know about him? Who told you this?


Answer these,and if you can think of anything else that might be helpful,throw it in as well.
 

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Answer these,and if you can think of anything else that might be helpful,throw it in as well.
1) Since quite a few years, we go to the same school

2) We don't talk that often now, I used to try, but now I realised I just seem needy and desperate to keep on trying to forcibly speak to her. We do speak sometimes though. When we speak, it's now usually her to start talking, but is usually about trivial things, e.g. asking the time etc. Sometimes she'll just laugh at something she heard me say. Rarely anything sexual, though it used to be common to talk dirty to each other. When she mentions something to me, like about her wearing a thong or something, and I try to take it further, she pulls out.

3) Nope, but she alluded to it a few times before. Like when we spoke about sex and stuff, she said that "the guy has to be her boyfriend before she does that though"

4) A few of her friends who I am also friends with. Not because it related to me, just general chit-chat stuff, so not inr esponse to me saying I liked her or something like that.

I don't think there's anything else I could tell you really, that's just the situation as it stands. Hopefully that'll tell you everything you need to know on top of the first post.
 

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1) Since quite a few years, we go to the same school
This says it all. This,coupled with you never asking her out did you in.

You're the latest victim of the friendzone.

I'm looking at a guy who's known a girl for a few years,and who's NEVER shown an interest in her in all that time.


It's over with.


You say she usd to like you,but you never made a move. You stalled her interest out. She got used to you just being a guy who was around her,a guy who never showed any kind of sexual in her at all.


So since you never showed a sexual interest,she never developed any sexual feelings. You were a friend,so she has friend feelings towards you.


And since it's been this way for a few years,I wouldn't look for it to change anytime soon.


It's best just to move on. I mean you've already wasted 3 or 4 years,so what's the point of wasting more time?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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