"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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alright guys...
i dont have a woman dilemma but i have a DJ...well a brother down

im 19 and im trying to teach my brother whos 32 the system but the thing is that he's been an AFC for quite a while now...women have been using him and given him the LJBF speech all the time...

i dont know what to do to help him see whats happening to him, show him all the female possibilities besides the one he's chasing and that he should snap out of it....

he's been like this for so long that making him see whats going on might take a while...and like quitting smoking, i dont think ill be able to help him until he decides himself
what should i do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well my opinion is that trying to help an AFC often makes him worse
Eventually he'll realise that something is wrong and something must change, and then maybe he'll be receptive

ThePanther
 
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Specifically pinpoint the things that he is doing wrong and tell him why. Post an afc situation, that he is mishandling, on this site then we'll give our input and then print out our replies and give them to him!
 
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What can i say....he's got oneitis, he thinks that if he doesnt get this one no one else will love him
he tries to win her love with money, dinner, gifts

and he acts like a total loser...instead of being ****y and funny and keeping things light like he usually does the first weeks of the relation, he always makes her feel uncomfortable, pressured and keeps the relationship heavy
no that theyve been seeing each other for only 2 months...
 
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Yeah I agree with the poster who said you are making things worse. Some people just can't be helped dude, when a man really wants to improve he will do it by himself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A Moderator's Humble Opinion

There are some lessons in life people have to learn on their own. It sounds like your brother has not reached his breaking point yet.

Until he reaches his own breaking point, and is willing to let go of his own ego and make a long term commitment to change, your brother is doomed.
 
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But he's 32 !!!

If he doesnt get a wife ill have to be the one to give our parents grandchildren...and at the rate im going right now...settling down with ONE woman does not seem promising....lol

but seriously... there's nothing i can do? i can't just let my brother self destruct himself without doing anything can i?
 
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WHy dont you print out some good parts from the DJ bible and let him read it?

If he gets interested enough, give him this site address and let him learn and open his eyes.

Ive learned talking with friends about the stuff Ive learned here, doesnt make sense to them, and they arent interested
 
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The thing is that we discovered the System and Doc love at the same time....i've been using it on a daily basis with my male/female interactions while he, on the other hand seems to not be able to use it or forgets it...he can't apply it!

i've just been reading this website while my brother actually went out and ordered the dating dictionary
 
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