"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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call again?

volkme68

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A girl I took out last week agreed for another date today, after finals were over, with the actual time yet to be announced. I TXT her at around 2:30 for dinner at 7. she hasnt replied yet. Normally, I wouldnt text, but I wasnt sure of her finals schedule. I also wouldn't call again, but I am not sure if she is still in exams, which go as late at 8, or if she even got the initial message. also, I hadn't told her where we were going to go. Should I call a second time or is she blowing me off?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Find another chick. Reason being is that you got too serious with her for a second date, and you chickened out to call her. She thinks you're desparate. If you call her now, tomorrow, 3 days later, or 10 days later, don't matter, she still think you're desparate.


She got your message, read it, and if she wants you she responds..


What you should do is not call her, instead move on to the next big thing.. Doing that tell her that you are not desparate and you have some value, if she recognizes that she will call you or bump into you sometime, BUT, move on with assumption that you never see her again.


Forget her, 2nd date man, dinner... Serious... She don't want to get married, she just want some fun.



Should you decide to call her, she will make some excuse, or tell you ok to call her other time, or something, but you will not go on a date with her. Like I said, she thinks you're average and bellow her standard. You can confirm that by calling her. Either way, whatever you do, if you're with me PM me your e-mail, I got something for you.
 

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It wasn't going to be a real serious dinner, actually going to a local pub and then out for beerpong, not real serious. Not sure if that changes the situation.
 

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hey so i thought I'd give you an update. I went to the pub anyway, she never called me up. Me and my boy hooked up with these two random chicks and went bar hopping, when guess who we run in to. she tells me sorry she got my message at eight, and figured it was too late. i explained to her the beauty of cell phones and voicmail and called her out, telling her I don't take getting stood up well. talk about being hit with a curveball, she lost all her confidence there.lol I left with the girls from the pub, and have gotten three calls, which I haven't ansered since. Calling girls out + jealousy = amazing results, eh?

In light of this, you can wait several days and give her another call. But if she calls you again pick up.

When things like this happen, call 1, call 2 you dont' answer, call 3 you do answer, plus any voice mail.

Objective is to have her attracted to you, have her wanting to be with you. It is NOT to hurt the girl.


Wait a few days - 3, 5, 10, don't matter - and call her, like when you about to do something fun, call her up and ask if she wants to tag along.




Never bend over to fit the woman, so to speak. If she's not doing something with you because she has other things to do, accuse her of screwing it all up, don't beg her to do it or agree to do it some other time. Litterally accuse her of screwing things up, and demand her doing it with you now. Tell her, you can either do it, or not.
 
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