Buying a girl a drink via the bartender

[Professor Booty]

I've never done this myself, but I've seen this done a few times, always with succes. The guy sees a girl he likes sitting at a bar, he takes note of what she's drinking, asks the bartender to give her another on him. Every time the girl not only accepted the drink, but picked up her stuff and walked over to sit with the guy afterwards. I know this isn't in the DJ playbook, but at least it seems to work better than sidling up to her with the, "hey, can I buy you a drink?" routine. I think she has to be alone, though, and you have to look super confident when she looks up to see who it is. Anyone here have any experience with this?

 

[Desdinova]

I have NEVER bought a woman I didn't know a drink. I get them to buy me one.

Think about buying a stranger a drink for a moment. The first impressions you are giving her are: I want to waste my money on you, I'm too chicken 5hit to come talk to you so I'll use my wallet and a third wheel to substitute my approach, I'm putting you on a pedestal, I'm interested in you only for your looks, etc etc.

Every other fvcking guy thinks that buying women drinks is the best way to pick them up. To conquer the guys who are spending money on the woman, you need to be different. Approach her instead of trying to impress her with a drink. Save your money and learn how to attract a woman using nothing but your raw personality.

Quit looking for the quick fix for your approach anxiety and do it the hard way... APPROACH, APPROACH, APPROACH.

 

[Mike32ct]

I've never done it and don't recommend it.

I've seen it done twice. The first time, the girl just said "Thank you" and went back to chatting with her gf. She was not interested.

The second time, the guy moved in after she got the drink. They hit it off and left together.

The first case was an average looking guy. The second was some hot guy (no homo).

Overall, I'm with Desdinova. I don't see it as a viable "game" technique. Just approach her. She's either interested or she's not. Sending her a drink doesn't really gain you anything.

 

[Professor Booty]

I'm not so sure. I mean, who cares about the money, it's one bloody drink. I think women like it because it gives them the choice to come on over or not, so they don't feel as pressured to put up their ***** shields. I wouldn't go over after the drink though. She has to come to you. I dunno, the drink in this case is more symbolic - it shows in a very simple way that you're attracted to her. Instead of trying to convey that through some contrived pseudo-friendly babble. But, I haven't done it myself, so I can't speak from experience. I'm just wondering if there are others who have.

 

[badboyjmm]

That move could of work before Facebook, instant messaging and before all those "girls night out", but right now, if you do it, you are a chump, plain and simple.

My friend (despite me telling him otherwise) send two drinks to two girls. They took it, drank and stood there... After a while, one guy went to sit down with them and they were laughing and whatnot...

Women will never come over in my opinion only because you send them a drink. Some of those broads come in bars/clubs and their goal is to see who, in the group of girls, will get the most drinks. They usually always ended up drunk....

Look, it's not about the money, but about self-respect. Don't trick your money man.

You want that girl ? Approach

 

[SharinganUser]

If you are going to buy the girl a drink, just buy it and bring it over yourself. If you send the bartender over then he is going to chat her up and then he'll just passively mention "that guy bought it" or might even forget to mention you all together.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

What you do when you first meet a girl is precedent of what will happen in that relationship. This is why I don't take girls on date where I pay for both of us. If I pay for both of us she is going to expect the same treatment over and over and I will never invest more into a girl then she has into me. It must be mutual.

 

[Professor Booty]

If you are going to buy the girl a drink, just buy it and bring it over yourself. If you send the bartender over then he is going to chat her up and then he'll just passively mention "that guy bought it" or might even forget to mention you all together.

Well, I saw it last night in action and it was a female bartender and she sold it quite well, it was, "This drink is courtesy of the gentleman over there", and she pointed to him. And like I said, she came over and sat with him for some time. I don't know if he number-closed or not, but he certainly monopolized her attention after that. And he wasn't at all good looking. By the way, I was chatting up this same girl before that happened, so that's what got me thinking, lol.

 

[SharinganUser]

Well, I saw it last night in action and it was a female bartender and she sold it quite well, it was, "This drink is courtesy of the gentleman over there", and she pointed to him. And like I said, she came over and sat with him for some time. I don't know if he number-closed or not, but he certainly monopolized her attention after that. And he wasn't at all good looking. By the way, I was chatting up this same girl before that happened, so that's what got me thinking, lol.

So you don't actually know if it worked or not?

 

[Professor Booty]

So you don't actually know if it worked or not?

No. That's why I'm wondering if anyone here has f-closed with this method as a starter. I mean, it looks promising enough, the girl always comes over from what I've seen. She leaves her seat to come sit and talk with you? Seems like a good start (she must to that btw, for this to be any good, if you go over, it's garbage). How it ends up depends on the ensuing interaction, I would think. I guess I'll just have to try it myself to know if it's a viable option or not.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Why bother with buying an over priced drink anyways? Just talk to her normally, drop pretense.

 

[J Roc]

Well, I saw it last night in action and it was a female bartender and she sold it quite well, it was, "This drink is courtesy of the gentleman over there", and she pointed to him. And like I said, she came over and sat with him for some time. I don't know if he number-closed or not, but he certainly monopolized her attention after that. And he wasn't at all good looking. By the way, I was chatting up this same girl before that happened, so that's what got me thinking, lol.

thats means his game was so weak that he had to send her a watered down drink in order to keep her attention and probably didnt even get her number. :kick: