"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Building Comfort?

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HandyAndy

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Ive noticed that when I meet a new girl, I dont seem like myself. When Im with my friends, people im very comfortable with, I can laugh, joke, say whatever the hell I want, tease, flirt, etc.

But when Im with a girl I just met, feel like I cant do all that stuff around them because I havnt built any comfort around them, they are still strangers to me!

So, any ideas on how to build comfort? Usually I do this by spending time with the person for a couple days then I start to loosen up around them...then I bring the CnF and my humor/wit starts to kick in. Help? Thx!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Same here!! But if you like me and a funny guy, you can get through it sometimes. If i can get one good joke in or make her laugh i'm set. But if i fail to do this i'm screwed
 
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The first step is to stop caring what women think. There would be no reason for you to be afraid to say something if you didn't care what females thought about you. You're putting the P on the pedestal so much that you are nervous to be yourself around women. No good.

The only way to fix this is to work on your inner game. You need to come to terms with that fact that sounding like an idiot in front of 15 women doesn't mean anything, while coming off as outgoing and funny infront of 1 woman can mean everything. and even with that said, you need to remind yourself that as a confident man you don't necessarily need to find a woman all the time.

Once you have that mindset going, put it into action. The only thing keeping you back from doing this is your fear of being too over the top with women. You want to keep it rated PG-13. Understandable. Most AFCs censor their behavior in front of women because they fear that they will be looked at as a scumbag otherwise. False! A DJ can talk to women in scandalous ways while still being personable and interesting. Sexual connotation is just part of today's pop culture. Women are used to it. Men need to start using it to their advantage.
 
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