"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Brutal Honesty

themiltman

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I recently had a situation happen to me on saturday.....A little background information: One of my cousin's FB's hooked me up with her friend we all went out to dinner saturday. I would say shes a HB8(Nicole) shes going to school but she has two kids, Anyways the dinner went good and after we all went to my cousin's house to chill.

We were all drinking and having a good time but my cousin and his FB had a argument later in the night and it kinda ruined the night, So nicole trired smoothing out the situation between my cousin and his FB. When nicole was talking to my cousin i was plastered at that point and preceded to pass out effectivly missing out on any shot i had with nicole that night.

I wake up the next morning on my cousin's couch and i find nicole is sleeping on the couch with me. I get up and so does she.....We both hear my cousin ****ing her friend upstairs but for some reason instead of making a move i just talked to her for like 3 hours because i felt like i had lost my momentum by falling asleep. So i felt bummed out because i felt that i didn't make a move.

Later on that day i talked to my brother and he pretty much summed the situation up he told me I put myself in the friendzone by talking to her instead of making a move and she will probably now see me as a friend. I haven't talked to her since sunday but im wondering do i call her and see if she's still down to hang out? or do i waive her and keep it moving? I feel like my chances are about 50/50 at this point and the longer i wait to call her the worse my chances, what do you think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Vice

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You have a hot girl laying next to you and you decide to talk? For three hours? While you hear two other people f*cking?

Some guys are beyond help.

Don't call her. Wait for her to call or wait for you two to happen to hang out again.
 

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Sounds like you should stop drinking, and stop relying on alcohol to loosen you up. As for the chick, you still have a shot, you did not make a move because you did not feel like it. You either did not find her attractive enough or you were too scared to try although I do not see why.

Call her whenever you like it's not important how soon, as long as it's within a week. Call her when you feel you are most confident. Try invite her out to something interesting, something you learned from the 3 hours conversation, that she will find interesting. Make sure you make the move if she does show up - even if it feels awkward, you have nothing to lose if you really like her.
 

Vice

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puabestmate said:
Call her whenever you like it's not important how soon, as long as it's within a week. Call her when you feel you are most confident. Try invite her out to something interesting, something you learned from the 3 hours conversation, that she will find interesting. Make sure you make the move if she does show up - even if it feels awkward, you have nothing to lose if you really like her.
Go ahead and do this if you want to set up a dating frame/get friendzoned.

If she's part of your social circle and there's a good chance you'll see her again, don't call. If you probably won't see her again, call her.
 

Warrior74

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I'd be so embarrassed of the fool I had made of myself, I'd probably never speak to her again as penance.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SSAD.MORGAN

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Look, it happens to everyone, there is a whole thread with people sharing their missed opportunities. Next time you're in a situation similar to this, just think about how much worse this feels than rejection and take action
 

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haha, dude, you f*cked up bigtime if your goal was to bang this girl. BUT, good news, 2 kids?!?! gross.

but thats no excuse! just let your johnson do that talking next time.
 

iwanttofight

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Here's my point of view. Dude you should be happy bro, she actually slept with you all through the night, so she didnt think you were that creepy. No women would sleap in the same bed as you if she didnt somewhat like you. And she stayed in bed with you for 3 more hrs talking. If I were you, call her up and act confident as hell and she will love to hang out with you again, maybe even have sex next time
 

themiltman

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Its not the end of the world it's just ONE chick . I just feel like I missed out on a chance at another plate. I ****ed up and I realize and ACCEPT it. I'm gonna give her a call tonight I'll let you guys know how it went...
 
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