Brother in Trouble

[DanelMadr]

I had an internet discussion elsewhere and I asked why my friend cant get a girl even if he is 9/10 on looks and personality scale in the club. All the girls are looking at him with excitement when he is around but when he approach them its either very cold or no response from the very same girl which was ogling him seconds before or he gets no # or he gets funny repsonses like "I dont date models" (we laughed a lot about that one, cause he is a mercenary). Sad thing is, it lasts too long and I dont know the right advice for him. He is definetely not a wussy (inner/outer) or jerk.

One response I got, caught my eye......

Miss Nesy01 said:

Maybe they think he looks too perfect and he wouldnt talk with them. So they flirt with him exchanging eye contact but then he speaks to them and the psychological block kicks in, the girls cant say a word. I experienced the same thing. I met similar guy. Till we were only looking at each other everything was OK and then he talked and I wasnt able to say one decent sentence although I have no problem talking to guys. When he asked me out I declined and now I deeply regret it. That guy had no girl for a relationship lasting more then one night and even those was very little for one whole year as I heard. I dont understand why he cant get any girl, because every girl I know just loves him. But these girls do like I did with him. He is quite down now.

Some girls say they would never date a pretty boy (they are not monogamous etc) but I think its just sour grapes syndrome.

I thought its just bad luck but it shouldnt be that hard. Club is not the reason even its the most difficult place to pick up a girl. I ve seen him talking to girls in line for a burger.....they looked at him like he was some murderer.

I just dont get it. Even if he is able to make rapport with girl (and she behaves like her panties are soaking wet) she decline him in the end.

Maybe he come back some day with a scar on his face and he'll do better then

 

[Phyzzle]

No. He's just bad with women.

Women don't look at him "like he's a murderer" just because he looks like a model.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

some guys just have a hard time building a rapport with women.. i think chemistry is everything though, without it, theres no chance

 

[DanelMadr]

No. He's just bad with women.

Women don't look at him "like he's a murderer" just because he looks like a model.

Im telling you he is good...probably too good for them. They like the porsche but they are afraid of driving it.

 

[Phyzzle]

Dude, a Porsche does NOT make hime good with women. It get attention, but guys who are good with women GET WOMEN.

Bring him on this board.

Don't ask dating advice from females (MissNessy).

And don't come here to argue that female advice is right. We know that it's generally not.

Bring this guy here so he can read the DJ Bible and figure out what's up.

 

[Brando SC]

Yeah, i can see what's happening. The guy intimidates women. The whole Porsche thing, isn't that he has a Porsche Phyzzle, he was comparing the guy to a Porsche. The girls see him as a nice looker, but they don't dare drive it. I think this guy's problem is that he doesn't have the skills to connect with women. He can get them attached on a physical level, but when it comes to talking to them and intriguing their minds and stuff he's at a loss. Get him to come here and learn some stuff, and have him just practice talking to women, and really getting into deeper conversations and learning about them as people. He needs to learn how to connect with women. Until then, he's not going to win.

 

[hamelech]

I think his problem may be is that he knows he looks good and maybe acts too ****y...Women can be intimidated too...they like to be the beautiful one...being ****y is good if you're about average but the more handsome you really are the more you really have to ditch the ****iness with women...He probably relies too much on his looks and not on sense of humor etc...

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

Ive been clubbing out with some hot female friends of mine. And one time we were just chilling drinking beer etc at a table, and a guy comes up and asks one of my friends if she would dance with him, and she turned him down!

she talked about how hot he was (how she liked his body etc.) and how bad she felt for turning him down, she said she did it becuase she was afraid of embarrassing herself becuase she "cant dance" (although she seemed to dance fine when I was dancing with her,lol), she thought he was hot, and got selfconcious.basically, alot of women get intimidated by good looking guys, and theyll become self concious, and they start avoiding the guy and doing things that make them seem disinterested. This is why your boy is getting turned down even though hes obviously really hot (according to what youve said). THis happens alot, Ive experienced it. Its really common.

Beleive it or not, good looking women can become inimidated just like alot of shy guys out there. Those really hot babes arent all confident and "the shyt" like they make themselves out to be.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I never believe that excuse either he probably comes off as a pricc or he's too strong.

I think women have a thing about not dating pretty boys unless they're "nice".I hear them say it and you can compare the "nice" prettyboy to the jerk "prettyboy" who probably has more women secretly after him but might not have any real women in his grasps.

 

[KillaCam]

Chemistry is 90% of the close.

And yeah, perhaps they do feel intimidated by his looks and such, but without the ability to build a rapport with women, he won't get anywhere.

Had a similar situation with a good friend of mine. It's no secret he's good looking, and girls love talking to him, but he just didn't have that ability to sweep a girl off their feet. Eventually he learnt to suck it up and just go for it, and now he's quality DJ material.

Looks can only take a person so far, the ability it build a bridge with females cannot be topped.

 

[DanelMadr]

Thanks for replies.
Ya know he is not perfect but he is pretty good 9/10. I mean when I watch him, he is far better then the rest of the guys in the club, bar or whatever. And the other guys which suck, either too jerky or you can catch a glimps of their nervousness....they get the number or some positive responses. Its not he is just pretty face...he is the whole package - funny and all that. I can tell if someone is doing it wrong but I cant see obvious flaw in his style.

If you are right with the intimidation thing, what can he do? He cant start acting like a wussy.


I thought about fake-wussy approach myself but I think if you are not very famous actor or something, you cant be a wussy, looking hot or not. Its just turn off for girls, unless they want some new, pretty toy to play around with.

He can built some kind of rapport with really confident girls (they at least can make conversations) - they are very rare the confident ones, so there is big chance they have good boyfriend, husband etc....he hasnt been lucky though.

My advice will be.....tell the girl "Dont be a coward, I wont bite you." It could break her. I used to say that too with interesting results.

 

[Tomatoes]

I think it sounds like a case of "Too good to be true".

This will bring a c0ckblock out in any girl. They see a great looking guy....he then walks up to them....pursues them. He then has good game. They then kick in that this is too good to be true. They then think this guy does this all the time and they are being played. C0ckblock strikes!


If all the infomation you have provided is correct.....That is one of the only explanations i can say based on human psychology.


If its the case....tell you mate to aim higher. Go for the really fit girls. The ones that dont get phased by good looking guys.


Sarge On!