"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Broken collar bone - working out

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This is the first time I haven't been to work out for this long in 8 years. It's bringing down my mental health as well as my physical (I can't stress that enough). I feel like putty and it's killing my state of mind because it's what I do to relieve stress. I did a half workout to my usual leg workout and it destroyed me on Monday and I did cardio today and yesterday... and I reminded myself not to run for a while. Shyt hurts.

btw it's been nearly 4 weeks. It fully heals by 6 weeks allegedly. But by that time I'll lose an enormous amount of muscle...

I also tried to work the rest of my body yesterday and I could do some stationary exercises with the left side of my body and it doesn't seem to effect my right collar bone too much.

Can someone suggest a regiment to help me recover or at least maintain
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Take it easy and heal up.

The amount of muscle/strength you will lose in 6 weeks isn't enough to worry about. Focus on getting better, and when you do come back (fully) healed, whatever you have lost will come back quickly (muscle memory).

Other than that, keep protein/calories high and take in A LOT of bcaa's if you can afford it, (I believe 0.4xbw in kg per day). Get on a stationary bike and keep your conditioning up. Coupled with 10-20g of fish oil a day.

Other than that heal up.
 

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Thanks this is extremely helpful advice. I appreciate it.
 

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Jump on a treadmill and go for a walk each morning. It isn't so much the physical output that is throwing your mental state off, its the void inside you where working out used to be.

Fill that time each day that you normally would, and do some light exercises that don't hinder recovery.

I felt the same way with my back injury, a few months ago. It was crippling on my head as well as my body, for the same reasons you listed.

Don't give any more ground than you have to because of this injury.
 

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Quagmire911 said:
Take it easy and heal up.

The amount of muscle/strength you will lose in 6 weeks isn't enough to worry about. Focus on getting better, and when you do come back (fully) healed, whatever you have lost will come back quickly (muscle memory).

Other than that, keep protein/calories high and take in A LOT of bcaa's if you can afford it, (I believe 0.4xbw in kg per day). Get on a stationary bike and keep your conditioning up. Coupled with 10-20g of fish oil a day.

Other than that heal up.
There have been times where I've been sick for a week and didn't eat much and I've lost a decent amount of muscle as a result.. and recently there was a period where I couldn't workout for 2 weeks but kept my diet on point and I lost VERY little muscle (much much less then I did during the time I was sick).. I was shocked.

Its amazing how crucial diet is.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One more thing--it's my collar bone that is injured, but the majority of my pain at the moment is in that shoulder and extends into my bicep. Is this just from inactivity?

I know this is a doctor's question, but this is much faster with great responses.
 

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Quagmire911 said:
Take it easy and heal up.

The amount of muscle/strength you will lose in 6 weeks isn't enough to worry about. Focus on getting better, and when you do come back (fully) healed, whatever you have lost will come back quickly (muscle memory).

Other than that, keep protein/calories high and take in A LOT of bcaa's if you can afford it, (I believe 0.4xbw in kg per day). Get on a stationary bike and keep your conditioning up. Coupled with 10-20g of fish oil a day.

Other than that heal up.
I bought Branched Chain Amino Acids (1800) and generic Fish Oil. Hopefully you're right and this will help me heal because DIS SHYT SUCKS.
 

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You could also consider,

Vitamin C 1000mg daily, vitamin e 400iu daily, Zinc 15mg daily, Magnesium 300mg daily, calcium 800mg daily. A multivitamin wouldn't go a miss either.
 

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You can also take this time to explore another hobby. Thats what i did during my injury www.twoplustwo.com :)
 
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