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Broke up - Possible chances of patchup?

AlphaGuy

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Gone through a breakup recently, most likely due to loss of interest/getting bored from her end.

Things were going fine, but then all of a sudden she acted distant, and rude like if she's losing respect and interest.

As a result of this, I thought to just breakup and move out of this relation.

For the last time, I asked her if she really want to keep the relation or not? I truly said her that my interest level depends on her interest level, she lost interest means I lost interest.

She said "Yes I lost interest and lets breakup now!" - I agreed, broke up and blocked her on facebook, skype, and few other sites. A few hours later, her text came in which she was telling that it was all a in anger, she is still interested and that I took it seriously. I said now it's done and I'm done with my decision. A day later she texted me that she still want the relationship. I said I'll come back on one basis - if she guarantee nothing like that will ever happen again - she did guaranteed and I patched up.

Now again 2 days later she's the same, and she can't even tolerate me looking at other girls now. She didn't talked to me the whole day, so I said "What the hell do you exactly want?" and she said she don't want to keep relationship now because I am mean and only care about "talking to her" not "her", So I finally replied that I already gave it a chance and it's not working - Broke up and she first said she was just angry so acted rude, then at last she also broke up in anger by saying that I don't trust her so why should she be in relation with me - now we both are broken up. (She was not expecting that I would break up, plus she thinks I will go back to her myself, due to my old ****ty AFC behaviors)

So after it, I'm on my "No contact" period with her. Are there chances for the things to be sorted out and all to be well and good again with HER. ?

Would she come running back?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bokanovsky

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ZERO chance of a successful reconciliation based on the information provided. Stop wasting your time with this broad and spin more plates. If you really want to be an "alpha guy", you need to internalize the most important rule of them all: do not, under any circumstances, tolerate disrespectful behaviour from a female. EVER.
 

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It looked like as she's losing respect as well. However what i myself think is she still have some feelings left. She may start missing me as she's not even herself sure about the breakup - her talks give signs of this.
 

foolyoufool

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Sounds like she has feelings for you but she's confused. Regardless, she's going to fall back to her disrespectful habits. You need to cut things off with her, you deserve better. It might be tough right now, but in the long run it'll be good for you. I know, I'm dealing with the same situation right now.

Don't worry about "patching things up." It's time to move onwards and upwards.
 
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