"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bringing A Guy Friend With? /Sigh

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joverby

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bigneil said:
On a first date she shows up and you are intoxicated? No wonder why it didn't work out. She should have said goodbye. Trust me I've been there and I will never make that mistake again.
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Oh well , not too concerned. I'm sure there would be other chicks who would stick around.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The mere fact that she came to the show, talked you afterwards, and agreed to go out again means that she's still into you. Relax. The fact that you were so busy onstage probably added to your appeal, and it seems like she was completely cool with it.

Also, it was cool of her to give you a heads up re: the friendzone guy--obviously he wasn't any threat (if he was, why would she be on match.com??), and considering she was going to be by herself most of the night, it would be ridiculous to expect her to come along. Band shows aren't really an ideal first date IMO.

This is an example of when it's better to ignore the alpha male "dogma" and instead rely on your own judgement. If you had insisted she come by herself, she probably wouldn't have come at all--unless she was desperate. It is far better to do what's "normal" in a situation like this--in fact, when a girl is already somewhat into you, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO is not come of like a weirdo. Don't overthink things, and just set up a 1 on 1 date with her.
 
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