"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Brawl breaks out, can't get number. How to get it?

The LadyKiller

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I was out with some of my boys tonight when I met this cute HB8. She thought she recognized me from earlier and is a friend of a co-worker of mine (who was out with her). She definitely seemed interested and gave me a kiss. However, when we moved to another bar later on, it filled up quickly and a fight broke out. I was in the restroom while most of this happened, so I walked out to see people getting separated. In the confusion, we couldn't find each other and when I eventually found her, a bunch of dudes were trying to hit her up (the ratio was bad). I didn't want to deal with all the guys and she was tipsy, so I let it go. For what it's worth, she left the bar with her girl friends and they were all pretty intoxicated.

Unfortunately, I doubt I ever see her again unless I talk to the co-worker.Once the smoke clears, what should I do? I would be looking to secure a number and hit HB8 up from there. I can text the friend/co-worker tomorrow, Sunday, to say it was great running into her and mention her friend, OR I can wait until I see the friend/co-worker on Monday, as long as she's in the office (her shift has odd hours). How do you think I should handle this? I want to lock it down, but not appear desperate.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I asked a couple of friends from last night what they would do, and each one had a different answer, so I'm hoping you would be able to help provide some clarity here. One said to text the friend, one said to wait until you see her in person, one suggested organizing a group hangout, and the other said to wait until I see her again, whenever that may be.
 

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Wait until you see the friend co-worker Monday. As fantastic as you may have thought it was, tipsy girl may not even remember. Casually ask co-worker for chick's number, PHONE chick after work and suggest a drink/coffee/ etc.

Don't let you happiness hinge on this one. Booze and all, ya know.
This sounds like the most sensible plan. While this certainly isn't the ideal way to get a number, her interest (or lack thereof) will be revealed quickly - do I get the number or not?, which is a plus.
 

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UPDATE: My co-worker doesn't have her number, she's only a friend of a friend. I did learn HB knows some other people I work with, but I don't know how comfortable I am asking them for digits. I'd likely be successful, but it also comes off as creepy. Our groups don't regularly hang out, so not sure when I'd naturally see her again, though.
 
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