BPD woman has declared she is pregnant..

[observant22]

I’m a 24-y.o. guy, and was with a BPD woman February/march this year (I had hit a low point, out of work for a while – and she was staying at my parents house. Sex on a plate, I gave in to temptation).

While the sex was good for the first month, I realized that she was taking up way too much of my time: at this point in my life I needed to dedicate myself to the therapy I had started, not spend all my energy on marathon sex sessions with this wh0re.

Soon, her attention began to suffocate me. I spent the whole day out of the house in an effort to avoid her. Yet at the same time (because I have my own unresolved abandonment and neglect issues), I began to feel needy whenever she would stay out of the house longer than I did…she was beginning to try to manipulate me with stuff i had foolishly told her about my therapy (it was a difficult time, i had isolated myself from my friends, and i bagan telling her intimate stuff about myself and my parents..which she has since used to deepen existing divisions between us).

I knew this was not a positive situation for me any longer. So, I began to distance myself from her. As she sensed this, she announced to me that she was pregnant..i dumped her anyway (plus, I had a gut feeling she was lying). she went crying to my parents, leveraged some justifiable resentment they held about some of my conduct on previous unrelated issues, and they took her side…

For a couple weeks, I was surrounded. Increasingly, she began to get arrogant and take liberties vis-à-vis the running of the household.
Fortunately, she triggered me into having her removed from the house and even from the country (back to Mexico). But here is the rub – she now claims she is pregnant and will have my child in February.

quite probably, she is lying (which would be consistent with some of her previous behaviour, such as feiging appendicitis to test whether i would jump up and fuss over her, seeing out the charade all the way to blood tests at the hospital!), and has been seen out drinking like a non-pregnant person would..

my question is: does this kind of thing go on with bpd women??

Should I enter into a dialogue with her (I’m thinking this would be a bad move)?

Thanks for any assistance

Yours
A guy who’s wising up real fast!

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Always use protection! Take preemptive action.

*The tricks dangerous women use on unwary guys:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wf7fPlj1u1Q

 

[KontrollerX]

"my question is: does this kind of thing go on with bpd women??"

All the time.

"Should I enter into a dialogue with her (I’m thinking this would be a bad move)?"

No you should not.

Stay cold no contact with her.

If she speaks to anyone it will be your lawyer should she take it to that level with the pregnancy scam.

Definitely make sure to get a paternity test, don't believe her word for anything, they are pathological liars to the core.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134717

Read that thread all the way through to answer the rest of your questions.

 

[Captain]

Do not give special treatment to BPD women. Treat them the same as you would any woman, if they are screwing you around and making your life miserable, leave them and break contact.

 

[comic_relief]

This fvcken BPD woman my cousin married was the cause of why he committed suicide. She drove him to depression, debt, and ultimately suicide.

Be careful mate. Be VERY careful.

I dated a BPD woman and she tried to ruin me as well. Just be extremely careful. They are emotional vampires that will feed and ultimately destroy you.

Harsh? Yes. Accurate? YES!

- comic_relief

 

[DonGorgon]

well if she has chosen you as the daddy you have to wait till birth for the DNA test.. DON TNOT SIGN BIRTH PAPERS ,.. sign that and you are screwed..

 

[TizZle]

well if she has chosen you as the daddy you have to wait till birth for the DNA test.. DON TNOT SIGN BIRTH PAPERS ,.. sign that and you are screwed..

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Don't sign the birth papers until you get a DNA test.

 

[horaholic]

dont even believe she is pregnant until you have proof of that, but it sounds like you dont, anyway, so you're good.

 

[observant22]

Sociopaths and BPD's tend to gravitate towards eachother and in truth BPD's should not have a relationship with any other type of person as the sociopath is the only type of person out there with the right kind of mind to handle these women and not get emotionally damaged by them since they have no emotions to damage and they are above BPD's and all the other cluster b's in manipulation skills.

that gives me hope..because i actually do have sociopathic tendencies! i never thought i would be so happy to admit that!

which leads me to ask..is the only way to win this particular battle (assuming she sticks to her story), to develop my sociopathy MORE? i had actually been in therapy to move AWAY from this condition..i guess for the time being, therapy is out of the window right? or at least, if i want this person out of my life..

the reason her supposed pregnancy spooked me out is that after july 6th when she arrived back in mexico, she hooked up with a guy who looks JUST LIKE ME and for some strange reason (primarily because she is a bpd compulsive liar) i thought she would try to get pregnant by him, then a couple years down the line try to present me with a child who bears a resemblence to me...i am aware that a lot of guys 'give in' when confronted like this. I DONT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO ME.

this individual i am dealing with reminds me of Katherine from Cruel Intentions. at first, i thought that was kindda cool. now, i realise that it is anything but. STAY AWAY FROM BPD GIRLS. ESPECIALLY THE HIGH FUNCTIONERS.

 

[Energizer]

Just tell her to sling her hook and find someone who isn't completely deranged that they resemble the female version of Gomer Pyle.

 

[Bible_Belt]

the sociopath is the only type of person out there with the right kind of mind to handle these women and not get emotionally damaged by them since they have no emotions to damage and they are above BPD's and all the other cluster b's in manipulation skills.


whoops, that sounds like me, too.

I posted about my bpd girl on the "sluttiest act you've ever seen thread" in AE.

One thing about BPD - in their minds, you are either 100% evil or 100% good. Speaking of manipulation skills, to really get what you want, you have to manipulate them into dumping you by giving a very genuine AFC act. That puts you on the good guy side of the line, yet the crazy b!tch will leave you alone.

 

[observant22]

One thing about BPD - in their minds, you are either 100% evil or 100% good. Speaking of manipulation skills, to really get what you want, you have to manipulate them into dumping you by giving a very genuine AFC act. That puts you on the good guy side of the line, yet the crazy b!tch will leave you alone.

damn..she's left the country now and im currently with the policy of 'no-contact'.

in the weeks before she left, i did try the 'nice guy' act, with a view towards trying to sweet-talk her into an abortion, but i guess it wasn't very convincing..because she didnt buy it. she was still insisting on having the supposed 'child', and on living with my folks until she had got bored of them.

im just not that good an actor yet (im getting there, but im not there yet).

and reading about how bpd girls try to play off guys against each other..all of that sounds uncomfortably familiar........

thats why i had her ejected from the country, i knew she was dangerous..now i need to dispel this ruse she's trying to pull about hte supposed child, and then i will move town and change my name.


f.uck.

 

[Energizer]

When did you find out this woman was completely mental?

 

[observant22]

When did you find out this woman was completely mental?

when i realized the 'awful, crippling abdomen pain' she used to make me take her to the hospital was nothing more than a test to see how sex-addled and into her i was...

we're in the waiting room of the hospital, i am sat down, she is lying side on with her head in my lap, supposedly in crippling pain.

there is a guy sitting opposite us, her face is turned towards him.

the guy is looking at her, and i observe an expression forming on his face that says something like 'you are crazy...'

we finally get to see a doctor. he does touch and blood tests.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HER. she later claims that it was her 'ovarian cancer' playing up..

i also suspect she had a lesbian lover when she was here..she kept trying to invite me to meet her. im kindda glad i didnt.

 

[Energizer]

You should have ran away and never looked back. You've got yourself into a whole heat of mess now man. I hope you get this DNA test and superman that hoe to a mental hospital where she belongs.