"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I said I'd keep everyone up to date regarding me plating up my bpd ex when she came looking for the hoover.

It's been I think 3 weeks now since the recycle began and so far there hasn't been too many problems, although the storm clouds are never too far away.

2 nights a week I'm giving her, although she wants every night, you know how it is when they are idealizing you.

Strategy I'm employing is to never ever initiate anything with her, she does enough with the 5 texts in 15 minutes to get my attention. She's already saying she wants to get back together. I'm using the "let's just take it easy and see where it goes" but then I get "makes me feel sad"

She's also talking about our future together.

Regardless it's been fun so far, but there isn't much legs to this, as she's going to start breaking down pretty soon to try and get me to commit, of course if I did commit she'd vanish again so there's no point.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Infern0 said:
Regardless it's been fun so far, but there isn't much legs to this, as she's going to start breaking down pretty soon to try and get me to commit, of course if I did commit she'd vanish again so there's no point.
LOL Isnt that so funny though? Its true with the BPD - they go to work overtime, then get you to a point where they are 'all yours' then - (Poof) gone.
Oh its been so ggod learning about that type of cluster B behaviour. Ive said it before - never again. But boy, do they bang good.
Keep us up to date OP...
 

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HeadLightsOn said:
LOL Isnt that so funny though? Its true with the BPD - they go to work overtime, then get you to a point where they are 'all yours' then - (Poof) gone.
Oh its been so ggod learning about that type of cluster B behaviour. Ive said it before - never again. But boy, do they bang good.
Keep us up to date OP...
It's a catch 22. The thing is when she's behaving like at the moment, she's great to be around, fun, exciting etc. But she HAS to ruin it, same thing with all BPD. The key is to not get hooked but that means constantly being mindful which is a pain in itself.

I consider it good training though, if you can sustain the frame required to keep one of these girls in line, no normal woman will ever be a problem.
 

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Play with fire and you get burned bro, nothing else I can say. I can talk about women with problematic childhood for hours but I'm real tired of this ****. In the end some peeps overcome their past, some dont.
 
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