so a very long time back, i'd recently went ghost on a BPD ex. the girl got too attached, was incredibly moody, slapped me across the face, etc. the diagnosis was definitively BPD, and i had shared the story with you guys here. just about 8 months later on this day, i decided to go against popular advice on this forum and meet up with her again...
a few weeks ago, she had texted me and said she wanted to be friends again. i was naturally suspicious, especially after the way i had went ghost on her and told her i never wanted to have anything to do with her again. i was intrigued by her request, and after a couple weeks of contemplation, decided to meet up with her again tonight.
everything started off normal, and we were catching up on each others lives over drinks. fast forward one hour and 2 more drinks, and she is back to asking me personal questions: "have you ever been in love?" "do you think you could ever be friends with someone you've dated in the past?" i stood my ground, realizing that she was very blatantly trying to get me to do something that i would ultimately regret. then she started touching me inappropriately, at which point i resisted, moved away, and tried to change the topic of conversation.
the bombshell she dropped as she was touching me was that she was dating some other guy, and had been for two months. but this relationship, according to her, was unstable, didn't start off well, and she was unsure that it was leading to anything meaningful. sounds familiar. at this point, i asked for the check and got the hell out of the bar as fast as possible. this girl is the devil incarnate, and i wanted nothing to do with her at all. i feel genuinely sorry for the guy she claims to be dating.
the reason i'm posting this is because i'm honestly seeking everyone's reassurance that not all women are like this one. i really hate being cynical and thinking that i should never trust a woman, but when this kind of thing happens, i feel like i am forced into that mindset. i wanted to think that i could be friends with this girl, and that circumstance led me into believing that she was BPD when i dated her, but this encounter only reinforced the fact that she is in fact a crazy BPD bish. will someone here restore my faith in women?
a few weeks ago, she had texted me and said she wanted to be friends again. i was naturally suspicious, especially after the way i had went ghost on her and told her i never wanted to have anything to do with her again. i was intrigued by her request, and after a couple weeks of contemplation, decided to meet up with her again tonight.
everything started off normal, and we were catching up on each others lives over drinks. fast forward one hour and 2 more drinks, and she is back to asking me personal questions: "have you ever been in love?" "do you think you could ever be friends with someone you've dated in the past?" i stood my ground, realizing that she was very blatantly trying to get me to do something that i would ultimately regret. then she started touching me inappropriately, at which point i resisted, moved away, and tried to change the topic of conversation.
the bombshell she dropped as she was touching me was that she was dating some other guy, and had been for two months. but this relationship, according to her, was unstable, didn't start off well, and she was unsure that it was leading to anything meaningful. sounds familiar. at this point, i asked for the check and got the hell out of the bar as fast as possible. this girl is the devil incarnate, and i wanted nothing to do with her at all. i feel genuinely sorry for the guy she claims to be dating.
the reason i'm posting this is because i'm honestly seeking everyone's reassurance that not all women are like this one. i really hate being cynical and thinking that i should never trust a woman, but when this kind of thing happens, i feel like i am forced into that mindset. i wanted to think that i could be friends with this girl, and that circumstance led me into believing that she was BPD when i dated her, but this encounter only reinforced the fact that she is in fact a crazy BPD bish. will someone here restore my faith in women?
