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AJ84
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Dude, when you have a mistress who has accepted being your mistress, she owes you NOTHING. And that’s one of the reasons why some women are fine with being mistresses, they don’t have to operate under your frame and you have no ground to oppose that, none what so ever. She can f**k who she wants, hang with who she wants and basically not have to consider you at all if she chooses not to, because there is zero incentive for her to do otherwise and she has nothing to lose.And as you saw I said there would be exceptions with women who had kids with an ex, but still boundaries. Though as you also saw, most of the men, the vast majority on here would not be OK with your male friend that you were intimate with and that you clearly stated would be an option in the future. He is a back up option just like we are saying...this. is. what. women. do.
I'd really like to see a woman that would be OK with me to go on a trip to see a female friend and stay with her at her place (separate rooms). The vast majority would NOT be OK with that....yet we are expected to allow similar. One recent ex (who was aware I had a gf that lived with me) had male friends that were CLEAR problems in our relationship. The difference between me being with someone and me not wanting her to hang out with her male friends is that SHE KNEW I LIVED WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND WAS OK WITH IT, SHE SAID SHE DIDN'T CARE (THOUGH I THINK SHE REALLY DID, SHE SHOWED HER JEALOUSY PERIODICALLY) BUT I WAS NOT OK WITH HER MALE FRIENDS. SHE ACCEPTED THE BOUNDARIES BUT COULDN'T KEEP THEM. SHE CHOSE TO ALLOW ME TO HAVE ANOTHER WOMAN BUT NOT HAVE MALE FRIENDS....
If you are going to continue to have these side pieces it’s best you accept the reality of what you can or can’t expect from them. You’re running relationship game on side piece game and it’s giving you a headache.
I don’t advocate cheating, but if your going to do it then accept it for what it is and don’t expect much.