"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Born Again Virgin

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ThunderMaverick

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What the hell does that mean?


Why would...

...how do I word this?


If you ....



Hold On. I have to read this article again. What the hell is the point that it's trying to make!?

*reads*


This makes me want to vomit. You're pretty much trying to say "it didn't happen and that person who's hymen broke was not me". It happened, or else you wouldn't spend so much time trying to think that it didn't happen. Can a person who murders someone say "I didn't murder anyone. I'm born again! Never happened!"

Also the article states that some women feel cheap. Well, if you base your whole self image on your first time then that might be a problem. Why can't you use it as a learning experience?
 

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I've heard the term, "born-again virgin" before. Hell, I don't even like "born-again Christians"...they refuse to own up to what they've done and instead say, "The Devil made me do it". Part of "repentance" is to acknowledge that you're imperfect and have sinned and WILL sin again, and that only the mercy of God can save you.

As for "born-again virgins"...if I meet one...not interested. Sex feels weird enough without having to deal with someone's pyscho-social hang-ups.
 

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The sad thing is that there will probably be some guy that will buy her BS.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mintxx

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so glad i'm a long way from the states. religious countries = flat out weird
 
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