Borderlines and psychopaths perfect match

[jhonny9546]

I know a couple, although I keep it at only on a superficial level. She's borderline, he's a psychopathic narcissist.


As you can imagine, the perfect match: constant arguments, intense and wild sex, breaking up and getting back together over and over again.

The first red flag I noticed, before I even knew all of this, was that they didn’t seem capable of maintaining healthy friendships.. They were always meeting new people (not bad), but idealizing them, even doing things like marking the date they met, "10/10/2024, friends for life", and then three or four months later, it was over.

That was the first clue.

With women like her, you’ll notice it early on: she makes opportunistic friendships too easily, and drops them just as fast once those people have "served their purpose." It will do the same with men.

Will this kinda people ever truly heal from such deep issues, just like "normal" people like us, eventually understand their mistakes, grow and mature?

 

[The Duke]

I know a couple, although I keep it at only on a superficial level. She's borderline, he's a psychopathic narcissist.


As you can imagine, the perfect match: constant arguments, intense and wild sex, breaking up and getting back together over and over again.

The first red flag I noticed, before I even knew all of this, was that they didn’t seem capable of maintaining healthy friendships.. They were always meeting new people (not bad), but idealizing them, even doing things like marking the date they met, "10/10/2024, friends for life", and then three or four months later, it was over.

That was the first clue.

With women like her, you’ll notice it early on: she makes opportunistic friendships too easily, and drops them just as fast once those people have "served their purpose." It will do the same with men.

Will this kinda people ever truly heal from such deep issues, just like "normal" people like us, eventually understand their mistakes, grow and mature?

Out of the crazies I've known, Some improve, most don't. Some of them end up alone by the time they are 50. They never become 100% healthy minded.

 

[sangheilios]

@jhonny9546

This is a pattern that you will see with many maladjusted individuals.

One pattern I've noticed is that naive/clueless women with a sense of a victimhood seem to fall for narcissistic type men that basically pump and dump them or treat them like trash lol. I've noticed this pattern a lot with many single moms in particular. I'm not entirely sure what is "off" with these women, but it's kind of like they go through life not really knowing how they got to where they are and because of this they believe they are victims. Basically, not being aware of what they did that lead to a certain end result or perhaps struggling to understand what they could have done differently/better. This suggests that they aren't capable of learning from mistakes, have a poor sense of accountability, etc. I also think there may be some very deep rooted insecurity issues here.

I think the narcissistic/dark triad men aren't actively seeking women like this out. Instead, most women with healthier boundaries would figure these guys out relatively quickly and cut them off. Meanwhile, the insecure, naive or clueless woman may not recognize these patterns early on and start developing feelings of attachment towards men like this, one this happens it's game over lol.

I personally know/knew a man that was like this, though it wasn't so bad where it was full on abusive or something out of the Maury show lol. He was essentially just looking for shorter term relationships, flings, etc. He was charming and basically just told these women what they wanted to hear. They might sleep with him once or maybe even a few times, but I noticed that the majority of them would be gone within a month tops. However, there were a couple women that seemed to really stick to him like mud that actively chased him to some extent for literally YEARS. These women definitely had a poor sense of boundaries and were naive for sure, but also had some sort of insecure mindset as well, which would explain why they would chase after him for some long despite all of the obvious red flags.

 

[jhonny9546]

However, there were a couple women that seemed to really stick to him like mud that actively chased him to some extent for literally YEARS. These women definitely had a poor sense of boundaries and were naive for sure, but also had some sort of insecure mindset as well, which would explain why they would chase after him for some long despite all of the obvious red flags.

It reminded me of something I know too…
The world really is small.


That said, will these women ever have the hope of growing, recognizing their mistakes, seeing the "flaws" in the men they chase—so they can mature and become healthy individuals in search of other healthy individuals?