Bootcamp Week#5: Get The Number...Get The Date!

[scorpio king]

sarged in a mall today. Approached a college girl in a perfume store. I asked her if she could help me buy a gift for my little sister. SHe said stuff. I thanked her then I walked away because I dont have any more to say. ALso, I think I am too serious in picking up. I think I should approach like I am meeting her for friends frame.


Whatcha think? I mean this is not a bar or club where women expect to be hit on.


I think I would have to practice my conversational skills more. AAGGGHH!

 

[VSIDEBOY]

Originally posted by scorpio king
sarged in a mall today. Approached a college girl in a perfume store. I asked her if she could help me buy a gift for my little sister. SHe said stuff. I thanked her then I walked away because I dont have any more to say. ALso, I think I am too serious in picking up. I think I should approach like I am meeting her for friends frame.


Whatcha think? I mean this is not a bar or club where women expect to be hit on.


I think I would have to practice my conversational skills more. AAGGGHH!

Well done for the approach though man, just try to learn from them all and implement a little change into the next approach.

Without knowing exactly what you said then its difficult to comment but lets pretend that you said:-

'Excuse me, would you help me to buy some perfume for my little sister?'

Excuse me is bad, cos its asking for permission to speak to them, also the 'help' makes it sound a bit needy.

A better way of opening her could have been:-

'Hey (Tap), can I get your opinion on something, ok its my little sisters birthday next week and I want to get her some nice perfume, if YOU were my little sister which of these two would you prefer?'

then before she gets chance to say anything immediately add:-

'Hey what was that look for?? Looks to me like you WANT to be my little sister, nah thats just too wierd to think about. I bet you'd make a horrible little sister, you'd be throwing tantrums and acting all bratty when you don't get your own way......'

Add to that whatever you like, I've not field tested that one, but I'll try it when I get the chance.

 

[RBB]

ANXIETY. REGRET.

Yesterday I rediscovered the AFCrBB voice within. When I saw a HB I wanted to approach, and it told me, “Hey rBB, What are you doing?? This is social murder! There is a huge audience watching you!!” I knew better. But something had a hold of me. It was very strong this time round. It was ANXIETY. Anxiety had a grasp around my spine I couldn’t ignore. Instead of thinking positively I had slipped into a negative mindset. So I listened to my infected gut and went home.

I pondered about my new found AFCness. What turned me in, to the beta-male populous.

Peacocking to the extreme was something I wasn’t mentally prepared for. I didn’t know how to handle all that attention. Take a normal intelligent girl and put some weird new trendy attention wh*ring clothing on her. She had never seen this side of her. It brought a big grin to her face. She looked in the mirror and liked what she saw. But when she stepped out in public, everyone was looking at her. The extra attention she had received, made her uneasy. She didn’t wear the clothing, the clothing had worn her. This is how I had felt. I didn’t know what to do. In my old normal clothes I felt at home. Apart of the crowd. I’m not saying that peacocking is bad, you just have to have the correct mindset. I didn’t, hence my downfall. So I went home to analyse my mindset.


ANXIETY. I came home to think about what anxiety was. What purpose it served. Why we have it. And in THAT case, what did it benefit me. Anxiety is the feeling you get when you are about to do something you know is bad for your well-being. It steers you away from foolish acts that may harm you. It’s an instinct that makes us nervous, so we hesitate. But in the approach, it serves no purpose. Some people associate the anxiety of approaching with something like a rollercoaster or bungee jumping. Being a former shy guy, I never did anything outlandishly adventurous. I couldn’t use that outlet to destroy my anxieties. I had to find another outlet.

REGRET. My usual routine when I get home is pump up some loud punk music and watch the TV on mute. This is ME time. My wind down time. It makes me feel good. But at times when TV is getting old, I turn it off. Just lounging there looking at the blank TV. I’ld look past the glass of the tube and see my reflection. A black reflection of my lounge room, with a sofa, a PC and a coffee table. I see ME. Sitting on the recliner slouched there by myself. I look over at the sofa and think to myself, that’s where I’ld sit if I had a girlfriend here. We’ld cuddled, sing a loud, play along with the game shows on TV and enjoy each others company. Then I’ld think about that hot HB I didn’t approach in the city earlier. I’ld think, IMAGINE she was my gf. Wouldn’t that be great. We’ld do this, we’ld do that. I waste 10mins of my time thinking about the what-ifs. I snapped back into my reality. I look at the black reflection of my life. It’s obvious I blame myself for being so stupid. I’ld feel sh*t for passing her by not saying one word. This is regret. The regret I feel lasts for a while.

I managed to taste the grunt of regret. What a waste of my time it is! So I wanted that feeling to sink in DEEP. I wanted to KNOW the PAIN it brought. To know how bad it was on my well-being and know it is harmful. The anxiety I suffered caused me harm.

So now I have found out the true meaning of “Rejection is better than regret.” Putting the meaning of it in one sentence doesn’t do it justice when you’ve been there.

The next time I see a HB. I won’t hesitate. I now KNOW how bad the taste of regret is. Case 1: I get her number. Case 2: I don’t get her number. At least I know the outcome and won’t have to fall down into that same old black spiral again. After a few more approaches I should be back on track, and finally abolish the 3 second rule, or any rules and guidelines about the approach, and approach with true confidence.

I just wanted to share this revelation with my fellow DJs.

-rBB.

 

[RBB]

So tonight is the house party night. Should be good. All new people to me so it's a great chance to meet some new friends.

One of the guys organising the party is a self proclaimed pick up natural. We'll see if he is apart of the community or at least, has anything to offer in discussion. Ja reckons he talks a lot like Tony Robbins at work and has some good stuff to say.

After the party we're going clubbing. I'll see what he has in his arsenal or if he is just a verbal KBJ.

 

[RBB]

FR: W5 - Friday Saturday Sunday

HERE. WE. GO.

11:30pm - Friday
Moz and I went to the party of my co-worker. I told her I'ld go late because I had to be at my relatives. She told me to bring a friend. Ja had to work til 1.

When we get there, there are 10 people. For the exception of her and another woman that is OLD, everyone is a dude. It sucks but at least there's free munchies and alcohol. Went home at 1.


1am - Saturday morning
I call Ja to dress up, we're gonna go sarge the drunken scraps of town. I chill with Moz at my place til Ja gets there.


2:15am
Moz, Ja and I walk around town. We cold approached about 7 sets. Some were mixed (low success rate playing it too ****y) and some weren't. It was too late to go clubbing so we just CA on the streets. 4 of them were receptive and enjoyed our company. The other 3 or so sets we did, we were told to fvck off by some of the girls. Uncalled for, a simple "not interested" is much better. Ballsy crap from a girl.

I stuck by this comeback if I was ever to be told to FVCK OFF.
"Ooh, big words for a 13 year old. Did daddy teach you that." - Yeah nothing too flashy or insulting.
I just have to say something back to let them know you don't get away from saying something offensive to me. If it's an easy let down, I thank them for their time or eject politely. But acting ****y and attention wh*ring, you rarely get let down so easy.

Don't let the incident stay in your mind for too long if you get slammed. Don't ***** about it like Moz does. I make sure my comebacks are nothing overly offensive, just something to attack their character.

In one set, the guy gave Ja heavy eye contact. Ja said, "You seen enough? Or you want a closer look?" The guy said he had enough, and looked away. Heh, nearly got into a fight. With guys if you attack their character, they may want to escalate things into something more. Ja could of ignored him, or look to alpha him out. But Ja doesn't know proper AMOG techniques. By getting physical you lose no matter if you come out the victor. You'ld be seen as the creep that started a fight. The guy in their group will try to be a hero for them. Risky move from Ja but we never were accepted by the set anyways, good to get the blood flowing and feeling alpha. :box:
The set he was in, stopped and waited for us to walk a further 50 yards ahead of them.

Now onto the approaches where we got to actually run something!


3 set: 2Fs, 1M
We were singing out loud and acting like d*ckheads. I know, pretty immature. Too ****y, not so funny, but it does the job for losing your anxiety. We were singing and crapping on until I saw this 3 set. There was a guy on the left of the group and 2 girls on his right, presumely the girl in the middle is his girlfriend. The girl her side was a cute looking blonde who had a Kirsten Dunst vibe about her. She had dimples as she smiled.

So! As we were singing, about to pass them, I do a 180 degree turn and walk besides her.
Me: (aka Akon) Lonely, I am so lonely.. I have nobody..
HB7 brunette: Hahaha.. (her friend looked angry)
Me: It looks like you need some attention to make you happy. (I put my arm out, gentlemanly like, and she takes it)
HB7's friend: She wants to be left alone. (she took my arm b&tch!)
Me: (ignoring her friend) Who is your fav Ninja Turtle?
HB7: Michaelangelo!
Me: Ooh.. too bad. I'm a Leonardo guy. Michaelangelo sucks my a$$.
HB7: Well fvck Michaelangelo! I like Leonardo.
(HB7's friend whispers in her ear)
HB7's friend: You guys are idiots, fvck off.
Me: (at HB7) Your friend is making you into a loner, leave her and come with us!
HB7: I can't.. blah-blah.
-We leave-
Girls are so competative with each other. If her friend didn't or couldn't get any attention she'ld hinder her friend from having any fun. What a greedy b*tch, she already has a bf.


2 set: SHB brunette, and HB8 blonde.
Ja: Hey don't I know you from high school? (he did)
SHB: rarr, rarr.. blah.
(I disarm HB8 incase the prior instance of c*ckblocking happened.)
Me: (I look at HB8) Did you go to xxxxxx high school too?
HB8: Yea I did.
Me: Class of what?
HB8: 2004.
Me: Ooh, I'm way older than you.
HB8: Why? How old ARE you?
Me: Heh, I forget.. I guess I'm losing my memory too. What was your name again?
HB8: Kate. Hahahah.. you're funny. How old are you?
Me: Erm.. let's do the math. Think of a number between 1 and 10. (the elephant in denmark routine)
HB8: Hahahaha.. 10!
Me: No wait, you weren't meant to tell me.
HB8: Hahahaha...
(Ja stands up and stands behind us, he whispers in my ear they are waiting for their bfs)
Me: Ja here told me you have something in your teeth.
(She pulls out a make-up mirror and checks and then punches me)
HB8: (Pouting) He lied!! I don't, I look good!
Me: You're accusing us of lying?? Who lies more? Guys and girls?
(Ja is still there, and Moz has been on his mobile in the background all the time. I know time is running out. We have nothing down in terms of wingmanship. It feels weird that they aren't doing anything.)
HB8: Guys!!
Me: Well that's very interesting.. This is how I see it.
(SHB is on her mobile making fake calls.)
Me: Girls tell other girls little white lies. You know, "Oh you're a$$ doesn't look fat in THAT" But when girls lie to guys, it's something big. Like, "It's YOUR baby!!" (I point at her)
(I get annoyed at Ja and Moz for not keeping SHB busy with fake conversation)
HB8: Hahahahaha.. you're so funny.
Me: Too bad I have to go now, taxi is here. How about we laugh over more girly issues next week? Is there a way I can contact you?
HB8: Sure. Here's my number. XXXX-XXXXXX.
Me: Great! I'll see you next week.
HB8: I have a bf tho!
-We leave-
About 20 feet away I hear:
HB8: How old are you?
I don't look back or answer. Hahaha, sh*t, I'mma playa.. Ja looks back. Idiot. All guns were firing that time, I loved it. To bad she has a bf. I'm not a bf destroyer, I'm not a playa. I'm a Don Juan.

I had her baited and wanting more, she still didn't know how old I was. After that sarge I felt like god. Moz felt sleepy, Ja felt he had to redeem himself. And you know what, I wanted to help him. I wanted him to stand on his own 2 feet.


1 or 2 set at the ATM. HB7 blonde and Hbmilf. We didn’t know if they were together or what.
I tell Ja to go and I’ll back him up.
Ja: Hey, waiting for someone?
HB7: Yea..
Me: Hey dude, what are you talking to her for. She’s got no money, that’s why she’s at the ATM. (make EC with her) No free drinks here, I’m moving on.
HB7: Hahaha… Not true, I got heaps of money.
(Hbmilf infront of us turns around)
Hbmilf: (Puts right foot in.) I got these shoes from my mother. They cost 600 bucks. (then she walks away)
Me: Do you know her?
HB7: No.
Me: Hahahahah… she’s hell drunk. Who’s your fav ninja turtle?
HB7: Raphael.
Me: Oooh.. he’s the angry one. Ja here likes Raphael.
-I leave to talk to Moz. Ja and her fluff. I see him pull out his wallet, then more fluffing. I hear the words, I’m waiting for my friend, I jump back in hoping her friend is hot-
HB7: Oh there he is.
(He?)
Me: Oh yea? what’s his name?
HB7: Steve something something.
(The whole name)
Me: Oh hey Steve.
(Dude eating a kebab/yiros, face full of garlic sauce)
Dude: Hyyy.
-I eject. Shortly after Ja ejects-


4 set. 3 brunettes, one blonde. One of the brunettes is really REALLY drunk. They’re lining up at the taxi queue. We line up too even tho we drove to town.
Ja: How long how you been waiting?
HB7 brunette puppy fat: About 15 mins.
Ja: Oh yea? Don’t you have bfs to take you home?
Puppy fat: Well SHE does (pointing to HB7 brunette glasses helping HB drunk), but it’s a girl’s night out blah. blah..
(I know to go to HB6 blonde, Ja and puppy fat talk.)
Me: I guess she had a really big night then. What did you girls feed her?
HB6: Oh, she just turned 18 so I guess she over did it.
Me: Erg, she’s a wreck. Where did you girls take her?
HB6: PJs.
Me: Was it any good tonight?
HB6: Yeah. It was full. Mostly old people but the music was good.
(fluff crap, not getting anywhere but Ja looks good)
-taxi comes for them. I didn’t feel any vibes from her. Maybe she didn’t want to bring attention to those pimples on her face. I didn’t care.-

We walk off and people in the line look at us. Heh, yea… we had no taxi to catch.


3:30am - Saturday morning, went home
End the night off feeling extra good about this Saturday morning sarge. I look forward to Saturday night. Although Nat told me she'ld be available to go out, I wanted another boys night out to sarge.

When we got home, we talked about disarming c*ckblocks in sets and Moz’s shyness. Ja slept over, like every weekend. He has a home. He lives by himself, like I do. But his home is a bit too far from the clubs in the city. So every weekend we have a de-briefing session. Moz is never there, so he can never benefit from it. I told Ja that we should dedicate this sat night to hooking up Moz with a SHB.


2pm – Woke up
Called Nat. She was gonna come over at 8. Ja went to get some seafood and cook it up. We bummed around til 6ish. Ja went home to get ready for tonight.

(contin' v)

 

[RBB]

FR: W5 - Friday Saturday Sunday

(^ cont')

8pm – Everyone ready
We decide to catch a taxi to the clubs and we tell Moz we were gonna help him find a gf. I tell Nat this is what guys do. We drink beer and vodka and watch TV until 10:30. lol.


10:30ish pm
Taxi gets to my place. We head off to town. When we get there it wasn’t even 1 minute before Ja picked-up. It was a B6 brunette walking by herself.
Ja: Hey, come to Elephant with us.
B6: OK.
They fluff while Nat and I walk hand in hand. Moz walks besides Ja.
We go to Elephant which was dead inside. J and Moz and B6 dance a bit. B6 said she had to catch a gig somewhere at 12. When she left Ja and Moz wanted to go somewhere else. So we go to Stag, a older crowd lounge/club. I go upstairs with Nat while Ja and Moz look around for HBs. After dancing with a few sets Ja tells me that we should go somewhere else. We walk to another club which had a huge line up. While outside Ja talks to a 4 set he knew from high school. I push Moz to talk but he doesn’t want to be pushed, he said that he’ld do it in his own time. What a baby. While Ja and Moz line up, I tell them that Nat and I are gonna head off to a quiet bar. I tell them to call me when they are ready to jet.

Nat and I go to Belgium Bar, a nice trendy place full of mature people. I had enough of sarging with Ja and Moz. Ja was too proud to try and learn hence the many quick rejections and crash & burns. And Moz would never do anything. AT ALL. Nat and I enjoyed a few beers and talked about a lot of things. The first thing off the bat was about scary dreams. Then romantic dreams and what we thought they meant. We talked about the future, music, fashion, people. We probably downed 4 or 5 beers and I was ready to go home. I tell Nat that we should head off home cos Ja and Moz would be in the club a while. We taxi it home.


1ish? - How I lost my virginity
I tell her that we should go to bed cos she looks tired. Nat and I go to bed half naked and get touchy. After 20 minutes she goes to grab THE real slim shady. I tell her that I didn't have any rubbers at the moment and told her I'ld be back in 5. The real slim shady had already stood up but you know safe sex abd all that jazz. I took her car to the gas station as fast as I could without a ticket. As soon as I get home I have this mega-boner and she was asleep. Crap. Fvck, crap. lol.

I think that b6 brunette from work jinxed my bed. With her, I wasn’t into it. She put me off. Then with Nat, I wasn’t prepared. Haven't done it on my bed yet. I’m gonna wash my sheets with goats blood or something to rid the curse.

The next day Nat gets up and is in the lounge room watching music vids on TV with the condoms on the coffee table. I walk in the room half asleep with rockstar hair and morning breath. Nat picks up a rolled out condom and laughs. I told her “It wasn’t me”. She asks if I want something to eat and goes to make breakfast. She brings back some bacon toast. I tease her about being such a wife to me and things get touchy again on my lounge. She was probably waiting for me while fantasicing and getting all wet. After 5mins of messing around I put a rubber on and we have sweet-sweet sex. I last for about 5-10 friggin minutes, dammit her skin against my skin felt so good. It's good but not GOOD like I had hoped, tossing off is still good. But I'm looking forward to seeing her again, fvck! Yea, sex is such a powerful tool. I think I'm gonna toss after this FR. I think we both were glad that all the tension and the build-up to this moment was finally released. Even if it was in 5 minutes. Whatever.

Now we've been there and done it, next time it would be easier (less awkardness) and better (er.. experience). I guess with the pressure of the clock in the lounge room, I had this race against time to see who would give up first. Fukken hell.. I should of known better. Heh.

She stayed the whole day and showered at my place before going home. I guess I must like this chick if I hadn't kicked her out.

I’m leaving to the US in 2 months or so, so it’s gonna suck to be me. Instead of seeking advice on how to get with chicks I’m gonna have to look for way to break up with them nicely. Maybe during the last month in my hometown, I’ll revert back into AFCness and try to overwhelm her and be boring. I don't know.

Heheheh... watch for that FR!

Later I call Ja to make sure he got home safe. Then I brag to him.


All in all, a great weekend. Another number. A few good approaches. I won't have much money so I won't be sarging or going out next weekend. But I'ld hate to devote so much time to Nat when doing BC. I'll give a call to Kate and maybe the girl from work on wednesday night. I'll call Jasmine just to see what's up although I haven't call her in a while, so she might not pick up the phone. The phone bill has gone way up since doing BC, mostly organising to go out with Ja and Moz. I've deleted Amy's number. I wish I hadn't but I had a promise to keep. 'If I didn't get a number on Tusday, I had to delete a HB's number.'

I pride myself on being respectful to girls who are in a relationship. So while I'll try to get their number, I don't want to affect the relationship they have with their bf. I'm not looking to be a player, just a Don Juan. I do hate to waste so much time on one girl so I might have to call Kate for BC purposes. We'll see what I decide to do after some more reading and some more ME time.

Have a fukken great day!

 

[RBB]

Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Excellent post on Anxiety RBB!!

Good luck at the party - i look 4ward to the FR!

Sarge On...

Yea.. party bombed. But I still had a killer time last weekend. I can't wait til week#6 and the weekend rolls by again.

--

BC conclusion is near.

But what has happened to it's participants? Like the 4400, who will return? A quick word up should be in order just to see who's still here. What will Shezz have in-store for the the BCers? How many more surprises will they encounter? Will there be a resurrection of a former fallen soldier?

More answers next week as, THE BOOTCAMP CONTINUES.....

Where is everyone?

 

[Aquatico]

i think week #6 needs to start already.

 

[fan27]

This bootcamp has been a big help..its nice when you start to get some momentum.

fan27

 

[scorpio king]

thanx visebody for the comments

but I realized that before we unleash our deadly outer game, I think we should try to always be our best self like the Juggler preaches. Only then, we could apply the c&f, routines etc.


Got many no.s but Im planning to have an Ltr on a girl in our church. She is giving me IOI's and her friends told me she llikes me. I also like her too so I think Im gonna relax a bit. But Im still in as a matter of fact, I got a number at a mall last saturday. Still gaming her though.


more dj power to silverfox, swoop, visebody, fan27, shezz, RBB and the others I havent mentioned unkeyboard dj's.

 

[johnmich]

Hi guys

I know ive bin gone for ages and dont want to sound a wiener, but i am continuing the bootcamp at the beginning of the new year.

At the mo:

New job but not paid yet
no car and no money

so my options are truely limited.

when i have a steady income (around Jan 7th), i am gonna continue it.

I am still gonna practice when im out n about (EC, smiling, chattin to strangers) to stay confident.
But going out mainly to achieve the BC is gonna go on hold.

Sorry to let you down but it is absolutely sh!te wen you hav no money.
Dont worry i will post when i restart.

Bye for now and wd all you others for stil goin.

 

[scorpio king]

wait for me shezz Im still gaming 5 chicks Ive got numbers from. After the date, I shall pursue week 6.

 

[Swoop]

I have been working on getting the date. I got another # tonight, great night.

I'm gonna kick it at Week 5 for a while, until my game is up to par in getting at least 5 active #s. Bootcamp is still on.. I think this week is critical so that's why I plan to stay on it more.

When I am good, I'll go on to week 6. After that it should be all down hill....

Sarge on...!

 

[fan27]

I am ready for week 6. Lets do it. What's week 6?

fan27

 

[edo181]

ill be willing to move on to week six. but what is it?

 

[RBB]

To edo181, check out the djbc for a hint. Although Shezz may surprise us with something entirely different. You can download it from the link in the upper top right under "The DJ Bible".

You're gonna need a few numbers to do BC at this stage though. 10 to be precise. Pftt.. I barely have 3 in rotation, realistically. So let's get those numbers.

Good job scorpio king, I envy your progress. You're gaming 5 chicks?? Give us a FR so we can know what you did right!

Good to hear you're gonna tough it out Swoop. I too am determined to finish BC, good to know that there is someone going through the same sh*t as I am.

To everybody else,


Sarge on...!!!!!