Bombing a Date - What Did I Do Wrong?

[make_shark2000]

Hi all,

Thought i'd just post this for discussion and evaluation purposes.

So this was by all standards a total bomb, largely through inexperience and uncertainty. So i met this girl at a club, and we got close. We started messaging in a friendly way. I asked her out (or to hangout) and she seemed happy to come. Definitely some interest there. Problem was, since we met at a club, i knew little to nothing about her. So throughout there was this uncertainty, at least for me, whether it's a date or just a hang out. But i also know that given the circumstances, i'm kidding myself to say it wasn't a date. We had dinner. Conversation was so so....i'd score a 5/10....nothing bad, nothing great....Next thing, we split the bill, not because i couldn't afford it -- it was relatively cheap -- but again there was just no dating subtext. Went to a bar afterwards and again, conversation was good, but little to no romance. I was too hesitant to make a move though i did give signals -- looking into her eyes, closeness etc. However, later on she made moves of clear rejection, including shunning and talking to other guys in the club, and the night ended on flat but possibly not negative.

So i'm thinking, is it because i made no move, was hesitant to act, didn't even pay for the bill, that caused any interest and attraction to be lost. The interest was most certainly there and possibly high after the first night (she actually contacted me first for the hangout!). Or were the signals all wrong to begin with. Now i know this was a bomb, and i don't plan to save it tbh. But some suggestions and advice would be good.

Thanks,

 

[LMFAO]

1. Why the fvck are you taking her out to dinner on a first date? Dinners should be reserved to girls you've actually banged and want to make your girfriend. Food is a turnoff for girls.
2. You should have taken her straight to a bar near the sex location (your place), sat next to her ordered some drinks and hit it off. Make sure you use pull and push and be as playful as possible. If it's just dull conversation it will never get anywhere, she needs to "feel" her emotional spikes.
3. No mention of kino. This is why sitting next to her is important. You start touching her shoulder and slowly build up as you talk more, and get towards the kiss.
4. Splitting the bill is fine, at least you were man enough to do that but you shouldn't have taken her to a restaurant in the first place.
5. Don't hate on yourself. You're on the journey to self development and each time you go on a date you'll get better and better.