"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Better to meet for first time alone together or with friends?

eaglez1177

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Hey all, im going to be a senior in highschool but I decided to post this in the don juan discussion cuz I want more responses from more experienced members (no offense high school guys!)

Anyways, I just accepted a friend request on facebook from this pretty hot chick whos a year older than me. Weve been talkin on fbook the past few days and I know she wants to hang out. Ive never met her in person yet (even tho she went to my highschool, just graduated this year), but would it be better for us to hang out alone together or with some of my friends and some of her friends?

Heres what I came up with:

Alone together: Chance of being awkward, but easier to kiss close (if we hung out alone together i would prolly ask her to a movie or to just come over my house and chill in the hot tub)

With friends: more comfortable setting, possibly more comfortable for her too. The only friend of mine that has any game is already with another girl, and my two other friends have no game at all.

What do you guys think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bukowski_merit

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eaglez1177 said:
Alone together: Chance of being awkward, but easier to kiss close (if we hung out alone together i would prolly ask her to a movie or to just come over my house and chill in the hot tub)
This is the answer... but unless you're a mack of macks and already have this girl dripping wet for you (super high sexual interest level) - DO NOT invite her over by saying you want to chill in the hot tub!!!! her anti-slut shield will instantly shoot up...

going to a movie is boring and doesn't give you guys much time to say stuff... and always after movies the talk is about the movie which doesn't make for great talk... I PREFER to invite them over to watch a movie if i'm going the movie route...

is there a park by where you live? can you cook something interesting? (if you can't - u need to figure something out that you can cook!)

my first dates are normally - PARK (hang out/talk/laugh/kino) -> COOK (i will set the bar high for my food making her anticipate it) -> MOVIE (and i typically will watch a romantic movie with a damaged character in it who is similar to me - an example is "Ask the Dust" - about a loner writer womanizer. me.)... it's not likely that we'll get through that movie without our lips meeting and not caring about the movie any long.... it's deadly important to get her to want you... you should never care about awkward moments because there shouldn't be any... feel her out... give her a taste... stay in her eyes with yours... tell her with your eyes that you want to fvck every orgasm out of her... and let her eyes say back to you "yes, do that"....

^ this works for ME PERSONALLY far better than group settings... i tend to observe more in group settings and overly flirt with other women not in the group (i just don't like group dynamics so i try to get out of it by talking to other people)... so like i said - this is what i prefer...


if you're the alpha of your group and always in charge and know TONS of people - then you could do far better by bringing her around your friends and showing her how you dominate them...
 
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