"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Beta behavior around my sister

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After finding out about this great forum, I've done a lot of reading and introspective thinking about my own behavior and actions around women. I realized that I go extremely beta around my little sister. Like, i cave into all her demands, be it driving her somewhere, paying for lunch, dinner, movie etc. Is that ok? I do love her and i enjoy my role of the big brother. Any tips?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The men I admire are generous, by no means misers. Being generous is not the same as being an exploited tool, but many insecure men will avoid generosity at all costs because they fear some 5 bucks may not come back.
You don't sound like this at all, and I bet you're an awesome brother for her. So pamper her if you feel like it and don't let that overestimated "beta" concept confuse you. If you think she's going overboard with claims to your time, money or patience, make a crystal clear statement about what you will or will not do for her. She is smart enough to know the difference between her big bro and an orbiter.
 
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Thanks for the advice. What got me thinking too recently was when her boyfriend told me that i make him uncomfortable when i am around. I told him that we are not competition. I am the brother, he is the boyfriend.
 
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