"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Best way to rid of chest flab (aka Man titties)

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Since the age of 12 or so I've always noticed my nipples and the area around them stick out. I figured it'd go away after a year but years have gone by and still it remains.

I've never been made fun of for it so I think it's more noticable to me than to everyone else. I still want to get rid of it.

I go to the gym on average 3-4 days ( alternating between upper and lower muscle groups) a week with cardio on some off days. While this has sculpted my body and made me stronger, this God damn stuff won't go away.

I do bench presses, decline bench presses, incline, dumbell flys, chest press, and the list goes on. I will admit for a day or two after working my chest it looks quite good and even the titties are unnoticable by me and instead look like chiseled pecs. Then day three rolls around and I look flabby and out of shape.

I've read that it's a condition and sometimes requires surgery to fully remove the breast tissue.

Any advice is appreciated.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You can't spot reduce fat like you can work muscle groups. You need to lower your overall BF%. Your genes dictate where and when you lose fat.
 

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I'm aware of that, I'm not trying to reduce. I'm trying to turn it into muscle. Seeing as it's not turning into muscle I think it's a tissue problem.

My body fat is hovering around 9% according to my doctor, and 11% according to this instrument they have at the gym.
 

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You can't turn fat into muscle nor muscle into fat...they're two entirely different kinds of tissue.

Bodyfat measurements are notoriously unrealiable so it's best to go on the image you see in the mirror...you're obviously unhappy with that so adjust your diet and keep on working at lowering your bf%.

Failing that you might wanna google man boobs and have a read up on them,I can't remember the exact medical name but it's gyno-something.
 

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At 9% you probably just have an issue with body image. I bet you're the only one who sees your problem. Perhaps you could post a pic?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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could be a hormone issue, try to raise your test levels; good fats, ZMA etc.
 
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1. Lose fat mass off your body.

2. Gain chest muscle mass so the fat there stretches and appears less.

3. Train properly so you have a boost in chest growth. eg: full body worKout WITH squats, deads and rows... and bench of course.

4. Clean up your diet slowly. Eat more broccoli and spinach.
 

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You probably have gynecomastia. It can be fixed with surgery, but that's basically the only way.
Don't really worry about it. The surgery is way too expensive, and other people really don't care about your puffy nipples haha.

I'm being blunt about it because I have it too, so I know how it is
 

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Damn it, I have the same problem as well. I don't have man-boobies, actually my chest looks pretty decent, but my nipples are constantly hard and are always sticking out through my shirt. Have you ever walked into ocean water late at night and it's cold as fvck, then all of a sudden your nipples get all hard, well that's how mine are 24/7. I don't know what to do, sometimes I feel embarrassed wearing a moderately form-fitting shirt because my nipples are always poking through, which sucks because I have a pretty good built.

Can anyone please help out? Summer is here and I don't wanna have to wear big bulky shirts all summer long. :(
 

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The_flying_dutchman said:
my nipples are constantly hard and are always sticking out through my shirt. Have you ever walked into ocean water late at night and it's cold as fvck, then all of a sudden your nipples get all hard, well that's how mine are 24/7.
Im pretty sure you got somethin else man. Gynecomastia is where it's almost always soft, but they poke out still. It's hard to explain. But yers is like the opposite
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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akeith90 said:
Im pretty sure you got somethin else man. Gynecomastia is where it's almost always soft, but they poke out still. It's hard to explain. But yers is like the opposite
True. If you have Gynecomastia it will look like someone pumped air into your nipple region. Instead of the nipples being flat and hard onto your chest, they'll stick out and are very stretched.
 

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Espi said:
Gyno will be manifest with severe pain and itching and even lactating in the nipples......you'll know if you have Gyno. I honestly don't think he has gyno. Very rare condition....and I assume he's not juicing cause he would have said so...
Where did you hear that?
I have never in my life heard of pain or lactation occuring because of Gynecomastia. I think you're thinking of something entirely different
 

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I've shown my doctors over the years. First one when I was about 13 or early 14. Told me something to the extent of "wait a year and it should improve".

Went again when I was 15. Doctor told me it was nothing to worry about but he couldn't come up for a reason to explain it if his life depended on it.

No, I do not take steroids.

When I was 11/12 I was very skinny and when they first started appearing I thought I was getting minor pec muscles. Near the end of my 12th year I began to worry when my friends would have pot bellies and I'd have a fat chest.

When I was 13/14 I put on a decent amount of weight, and began to forget about them because they started to blend into my body stucture at the time.

Now that I'm much leaner and bulkier they stick out more to me. My chest looks fine at the top then it starts to puff out and become almost like jelly (moderately firm but not like a firm pair of tits you'd most likely feel on a chick with a huge rack)..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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