Best friends

[Can'tThinkOfNames]

Hi guys,

I am in a bit of a pickle and would really appreciate some advice. I'm not really sure how to start this story, so I hope it makes sense to those of you who read this.

I know these three girls, let's call them A-B-C. The three of them are best friends (something I didn't know until recently). A while back, I slept with girl A.

Fast forward to the present, I meet girls B and C. I hang out with girl B and end up sleeping with her as well. We talk, and she mentions that girls A-B-C are all best friends. I decide to be honest and tell girl B that I have a past with girl A. Girl B then proceeds to freak out, but gets over it eventually. Girl B and I didn't date or anything, we just hooked up a few times.

Girl B and me stop hooking up. I start talking to girl C more, who is overall a great person. We hang out 1 on 1 a few times, and I think that I am genuinely starting to like her. However, the biggest obstacle is that I was being an idiot and slept with both her best friends. I know that this bothers her, but I have hope because she is still willing to hang out with me despite knowing what I've done.

We go to dinner one night, I want to tell her that I like her, but was afraid to do so. I decide to go in for the kiss instead, but she turns her head.

Now, I just realize as I'm typing this that I sound like a total douche with no morals, but I still need your help and would greatly appreciate it if you kept the bashing to a minimum. I also admit that it was just a game at first, but I've developed real feelings for this girl.

I just want to know what's going on in her head. I figure after the failed kiss attempt, that she doesn't like me. Then I start asking myself why she hangs out with me so often, despite the history I have. Maybe she just wants to be friends, and enjoys my company. Then today, I ask her if girl B knew that we hung out and talked to each other often and she replied with a "no" and tried to downplay how many times we've gone out. These two tell each other everything, so why was hanging out with me never mentioned during their conversations? Does she like me, but is being cautious?

I guess my question is: what in the world is going on here? Thank you.

 

[Can'tThinkOfNames]

Thanks SoSuave666, will do so when I get the chance.

I am not very good when it comes to talking about feelings and stuff. I can lie about them, but when I actually have them? Big no no.

 

[Mike32ct]

Hi guys,

I am in a bit of a pickle and would really appreciate some advice. I'm not really sure how to start this story, so I hope it makes sense to those of you who read this.

I know these three girls, let's call them A-B-C. The three of them are best friends (something I didn't know until recently). A while back, I slept with girl A.

Fast forward to the present, I meet girls B and C. I hang out with girl B and end up sleeping with her as well. We talk, and she mentions that girls A-B-C are all best friends. I decide to be honest and tell girl B that I have a past with girl A.


Never divulge who you slept with. Women like a player that keeps it quiet.


Girl B then proceeds to freak out, but gets over it eventually. Girl B and I didn't date or anything, we just hooked up a few times.

Girl B and me stop hooking up.

Understandable.

I start talking to girl C more, who is overall a great person. We hang out 1 on 1 a few times, and I think that I am genuinely starting to like her. However, the biggest obstacle is that I was being an idiot and slept with both her best friends. I know that this bothers her, but I have hope because she is still willing to hang out with me despite knowing what I've done.

I hope you didn't say anything to C about your history with A and B. I mean if she found out from A and/or B, so be it. You have no control over that.

We go to dinner one night, I want to tell her that I like her, but was afraid to do so. I decide to go in for the kiss instead, but she turns her head.

Turned head is not a good sign. You are probably looking at friendzone.

Now, I just realize as I'm typing this that I sound like a total douche with no morals, but I still need your help and would greatly appreciate it if you kept the bashing to a minimum. I also admit that it was just a game at first, but I've developed real feelings for this girl.

I'm not here to judge. I've F-ed up plenty of times with chicks.



I just want to know what's going on in her head. I figure after the failed kiss attempt, that she doesn't like me. Then I start asking myself why she hangs out with me so often, despite the history I have. Maybe she just wants to be friends, and enjoys my company.


I think the underlined part is probably true.


Then today, I ask her if girl B knew that we hung out and talked to each other often and she replied with a "no" and tried to downplay how many times we've gone out. These two tell each other everything, so why was hanging out with me never mentioned during their conversations? Does she like me, but is being cautious?

You can't go by that. Women lie a LOT about stuff like this. They will swear up and down that they haven't or won't tell anyone. Meanwhile, they gave their best friend a 10 page report.


I guess my question is: what in the world is going on here? Thank you.

Hard to say. My best guess is this...

Friendzone mostly and she might be subtly trying to get some more juicy gossip material from you given your player history with her girlfriends.

 

[Can'tThinkOfNames]

Hey Mike, thanks for the insight. I didn't tell girl C about the other girls, but she knows for sure because B and her talk pretty much every day.

I have to admit that the thought of being friend zoned is hard to swallow. Girl B is an extremely jealous person, and I don't see a reason for C to hang out with me 1 on 1 at the risk of angering her friend, unless she likes me at least a little.

I don't know, maybe I'm just being too optimistic. I sure as hell wouldn't hang out with a girl if I knew my best friend would be angry. And there really is no information to get. The way I see it, all we did was bang; never took her out on a date, never bought her anything, etc.

Edit: she also just broke up with some guy she was seeing less than 2 weeks ago. Think that matters?

 

[switch]

I decide to be honest and tell girl B that I have a past with girl A

1.you don't tell girls about your past, yhey will never ask about it, if they do say : "past is past" , then move to next topic

I just realize as I'm typing this that I sound like a total douche with no morals

morals? what morals? YOU are a man, you want a girl you go for her..
who set "these" morals? WOMEN
you think those girls have any morals? im sure girl c is banging other guys as we speak despite having a bf....AND yes she still likes her BF

when a girl breaks up with a guy, for a while she still likes him,3 weeks i say...
during this time if you approach her, she will use you as tissues for her tears
(sleep with you, use you as jealousy statue...etc), after 3 weeks she will throw you away like used tissue rolls and goes after a new **** :box:

I decide to go in for the kiss instead, but she turns her head.

red flag....use her for hot friends,, or next her, she probably still hopes to get back together with her bf
probably girl

I don't see a reason for C to hang out with me 1 on 1 at the risk of angering her friend, unless she likes me at least a little.

there is no friendship amongst women....they are commensals

and i tell you stop figuring women out, read d dj bible, learn my youngling, for you have a lot to learn
your journey begins...now....or maybe later..idk