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Best friend is only hanging out with his girlfriend, should I say something?

Brighty

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Right, so my best friend basically got a girlfriend after not having one for 2 years and while I'm happy that he's finally getting some, I'm a little uncomfortable about it.

First of all, they met on spring break and hooked up. The week after, they hung out together and just hooked up constantly. He told me how he asked her out and he said he told her, "Well since we're hooking up this much you just want to be official?" and the rest is history. Now I'm not gonna be judgmental here, but that sort of seems kind of shallow to me and I don't know if I should confront him about it.

Secondly, he's always hanging out with her. To give you a sense, last week he hung out with her six out of seven days for hours at a time. I posted this here to get a general consensus to see if I'm just being jealous because I can't hang out with my best friend anymore or if he really needs to grab his balls and stop being an AFC.

Third, she isn't exactly a "good girl". She's been around. She's hooked up and gotten fvcked by a lot of questionable guys and she still regularly talks to them. My friend had a little get-together (The last topic I posted, actually was about it) and while all of us were sitting around hookahing she was even texting one of those guys. He brought it up later when it was just bro-talk, so I can tell it kind of bothers him.

I don't want him to get played, but he has kinda left me out to dry several nights in a row for her, so idk. I'm a little pissed because he acts like he's this DJ and all of a sudden he's being a total AFC for this girl and I'm getting no love.



I didn't really see this coming because I thought that he was a DJ, or at least I thought he was. He's that kind of confident/****y guy that girls can't help but fall for, and at one time or another he had a few hot girls after him but got played, and he always talks like a DJ, but his game was always kinda shallow.

So what do you guys think I should do? Should I confront him about it? Am I looking too deep into this?
 

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Captain

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He's an AFC. You can't really doing anything, but let this relationship fall to pieces on its' own. Try telling him anything, and he'll blow you right off. He's got one-itis for her.

Brighty said:
Secondly, he's always hanging out with her. To give you a sense, last week he hung out with her six out of seven days for hours at a time. I posted this here to get a general consensus to see if I'm just being jealous because I can't hang out with my best friend anymore or if he really needs to grab his balls and stop being an AFC.
He's an AFC - but you won't be able to change that at the moment. I doubt he'll even bother considering that spending too much time with a girl drives her away.

Third, she isn't exactly a "good girl". She's been around. She's hooked up and gotten fvcked by a lot of questionable guys and she still regularly talks to them. My friend had a little get-together (The last topic I posted, actually was about it) and while all of us were sitting around hookahing she was even texting one of those guys. He brought it up later when it was just bro-talk, so I can tell it kind of bothers him.
It bothers him, yet he does nothing. There's a good chance she'll cheat on him, if she hasn't already. He is a chump. He better be wearing condoms.

I don't want him to get played, but he has kinda left me out to dry several nights in a row for her, so idk. I'm a little pissed because he acts like he's this DJ and all of a sudden he's being a total AFC for this girl and I'm getting no love.
See a pattern here? Nearly every DJ or player or whatever gets in a relationship, and turns into a chump. You can't be in a relationship if your game is all a charade. You can only be in a relationship with success when you and your inner game are rock solid. Nothing less that 100%, rock solid.

I didn't really see this coming because I thought that he was a DJ, or at least I thought he was. He's that kind of confident/****y guy that girls can't help but fall for, and at one time or another he had a few hot girls after him but got played, and he always talks like a DJ, but his game was always kinda shallow.
Exactly. He's sometimes acts DJ, but he isn't on this inside. It shows in relationships.

So what do you guys think I should do? Should I confront him about it? Am I looking too deep into this?
No, you can't change a chump, they have to do it themselves.
 

eaglez1177

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Wow. Your "friend" is getting COMPLETELY played.
 
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