The best advise ever, be yourself. Why? Because it means you completely accept yourself; therefore, not judging yourself as good or bad. When you completely accpet yourself then you do not need to hide yourself from others, you do not need other individuals acceptance, and you do not concern yourself with others perceptions. Eventually, you will start appreciating yourself for who you are. Also, their are many desirable outcomes from accepting yourself (details will be given at a later time). Just try it and enjoy. :woo:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Being Yourself
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Donsing,
what do you tell the guy who is too shy, introverted, socially awkward, has bad acne, poor posture, mumbles when he speaks, is a virgin with zero sexual experience or sexual confidence, and is thought of as "creepy" by other people, especally women?
But he's not a bad guy, and would love to love a woman, be loved, and have a girlfriend one day?
Just BE Your SELF??
Should he accept himself??
After all he is being himself, but no one likes his Self.
Does this sound good to you?
What do you tell THAT guy? (which BTW, is a lot of the guys' condition when they first come here)
what do you tell the guy who is too shy, introverted, socially awkward, has bad acne, poor posture, mumbles when he speaks, is a virgin with zero sexual experience or sexual confidence, and is thought of as "creepy" by other people, especally women?
But he's not a bad guy, and would love to love a woman, be loved, and have a girlfriend one day?
Just BE Your SELF??
Should he accept himself??
After all he is being himself, but no one likes his Self.
Does this sound good to you?
What do you tell THAT guy? (which BTW, is a lot of the guys' condition when they first come here)
Kev07
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Be your best self, always improve.
An improved you is still you.
An improved you is still you.
KnockoutJM
Don Juan
Improve yourself, and get comfortable as yourself.. dont try to be something you are not.. just get comfortable and accept how you are.. that will take away the shyness, and insecurities you have.
Interceptor, I knew somebody would ask a question like that and I appreciate you asked that question. I can tell you why nobody likes his self because he does not like himself, simple. To love somebody, you must love yourself first. If he would see himself in a different light, in a perspective where its alright to have achne, shyness, no sexual experience and etc, then alot of his problem would disapte. He does not need to embrace these issues, but just acknoweldge and stop pushing against those issues.
Also, you can never improve if you view that every moment you are different, you change in every moment.
Life is a wonderful, complex mirror which always shows some aspect about yourself every nano second.
Also, you can never improve if you view that every moment you are different, you change in every moment.
Life is a wonderful, complex mirror which always shows some aspect about yourself every nano second.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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That isn't who that person IS.Interceptor said:
Being yourself is never easy and rarely comfortable. It takes a lot of work to become the person you TRULY are inside.
PrinceBeavis
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HEL-LO!!!!! The article from the home page of this website....
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Being yourself ONLY works AFTER you have become the BEST "you" you can be...
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Victory Unlimited said:
This was the answer I was hoping to see. This is what everyone needs to understand.Thanks, VU.
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
Which is a myth because we are NEVER "done" being the best we can be.
Until we're perfect, there is always room for growth.
There is no finish line in this game.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"Being yourself ONLY works AFTER you have become the BEST "you" you can be..."
Total bullshyt. being youself means being true to yourself...how you would act around your buddies. that nerdy guy im sure has no social problems when he's kickin' it with his friends playing computer games or whatever, because he is comfortable. and thats the state hes gotta be in all the time. chicks dig guys who are real and true to themselves...not people who put up fronts and acts trying to be something there not. these people are called fakes, and most other people hate them. the best advice for the nerd it to learn to just be cool and himself around others like he is with his friends. not to change everything he likes and does into what other people percieve as cool.
Total bullshyt. being youself means being true to yourself...how you would act around your buddies. that nerdy guy im sure has no social problems when he's kickin' it with his friends playing computer games or whatever, because he is comfortable. and thats the state hes gotta be in all the time. chicks dig guys who are real and true to themselves...not people who put up fronts and acts trying to be something there not. these people are called fakes, and most other people hate them. the best advice for the nerd it to learn to just be cool and himself around others like he is with his friends. not to change everything he likes and does into what other people percieve as cool.
Guys, improving yourself means that you are aligning your mind, body and emotional bodies to your peferences, therefore, meaning you like your self more. It still did not change anything expect your perspective about yourself, and improvement is for yourself and not for other people. Hence, you are just liking/appreciating yourself more. Also, if you enjoy being who you are and what you do than their is nothing else to say and remmember to always have fun :rockon: .
ok interceptor, tell me this: lets say YOU are that guy that you described.
Are you truly HAPPY being "yourself", that version of yourself?
if YES, then nobody has the right to say you have to change anything.
If you are NOT happy, then you are not truly being yourself! means your inner being is telling you that you are not truly how you want to be.
Are you truly HAPPY being "yourself", that version of yourself?
if YES, then nobody has the right to say you have to change anything.
If you are NOT happy, then you are not truly being yourself! means your inner being is telling you that you are not truly how you want to be.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
HEY!!! That's MY line!!! :woo:Kev07 said:
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
DJVladdy said:
Wow, Vlad, if I were that poor guy I described I would NOT be happy, dude...
Nope.
LOL!well, for me personally, with the goals and standards I have personally, NO, Vlad, I wouldn't be happy being that version of myself.
If I am not happy, I would say, that in a way I am being myself, but it's NOT the best self (according to me)at that time.
Basically, if one is not happy with one's results, it makes pefect sense to change one's strategy so that one could accomplishing those goals one has in mind.
Hope this helps you.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.