Being too ****y = mean?

[English_Bloke]

Alright so I love to use C+F, some sarcastic stuff, catching them off guard....you know that sort of tactic. It works well for me and I dont feel exposed using it, so I use it alot. I can naturaly be funny just generally people see my jokes as being harsh but still so funny.

Im working on this girl right now and I use C+F. She laughs and hits me, calls me 'mean' lol, and yes I know hitting is a good thing. Just one day she was walking with me and said 'why do you always bring everything down?'. So far things are good, but I think me possibly being too 'mean' may be slowing us down.

Do you think then I need to lay back on the C+F, and if so what should I replace it with - compliments, positive things?

 

[TheManlyMan]

the term "mean" can just be a flirting word; if she hits you on the shoulder lightly or touches you when you're C+F'ing around, then its all good.

then she says you're bringin things down. Maybe you're over doing it without noticing. Laugh, smile, and be aloof, but to a certain degree; don't become oblivious to her feelings just because you want her to feel a certain way. Seduction isn't just about sparking one feeling, its about understanding and altering all of them to make her impression of you a better one.

 

[splinterkb]

If shes laughing while she says you're mean, then you're fine. If she says it seriously, then she probably thinks you're an *******.

 

[English_Bloke]

ok, I think im good for now but should move away from depending on C+F. Do giving comlpiments and genuine signs of interest in a girl work out - or can she just use that again me?

 

[mastersF]

mean = interesting =/= jerk.

keep it up, but try to tone down on degrading things. like maybe give her a compliment, but u can say sth to tone down the effect of the compliment to make u appear less of a NICE guy who compliments his way into LJBF

 

[crust45833]

Using C+F does not mean you have to be negative about everything. "Bringing everything down" tends to imply that you have a negative outlook. You can be C+F in a positive manner and get just as many laughs, create just as much interest, but not be labaled an ******* or a negative person.

 

[ghostin]

Always remember to mix it up a bit too. If u see her wearing something nice then tell her she looks nice in that dress....then make fun of her about her hat or something.