Being the man - bar experience

[zekko]

I can understand both arguments but I think I'm with the OP on this one. But I have my own rules and my own beliefs. If you don't give me your number when I ask, then we're done here.

I'm kind of in between the two positions here. I agree with MisterD that if the girl wouldn't give me her number when I asked for it, I probably would have been put off by it and stuck her in the friendzone. I don't think I would have acted like a drama queen over it, but I wouldn't be playing the ****y douchebag game in the first place. That's all just acting, and I'm not into playing games - neither from her end or from mine.

I know some guys are saying "keep her around to fvck, dude". But if you have options, there's not that much incentive to deal with a low interest girl.

I do think that giving back the number was kind of crass, or overgaming as some said. If you don't want her, don't call her. That's the ultimate disinterest.