Being "nice" got me HB9

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

DaddyLongShanks

Banned

Jun 28, 2015

Jaylan said:
I feel you on that bro. My ex was likely a 7 to most guys...but she was a 10 to me. The way we connected just made her that much more sexier. I got that gut punch just thinking about her. Rare feeling finding that....and that was almost 7 years ago now.

Have fun with this girl.

Some girls are visually a 7 and the more you two talk, the more attractive she becomes. Her face may even visually look more attractive as her confidence swells in talking to you, because she feels the same way.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.