Being insecure?

[Captin Krunch]

OK so ive been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks...and ive noticed that shes kind of friendly..and it seems that she is flirting with other people to them but she is jus reall friendly..noww i dont want to come off alll jealous and insecure so i dont get mad too much. but usually i get kinda jealous...fellas what should i do? should i pretend not to care? or talk to her about it? what should i do/say?

 

[zekko]

Beware of getting oneitis with this girl, I repeat, do not get oneitis. If she is fliritng with everyone while seeing you I would see this as a red flag. But she is within her right to do this, you've only been seeing her three weeks, you can't really see this as an exclusive thing.

Chances are there is not much you can do to change her personality if that's the way she is, so I would just do your best to pretend not to care. Don't let her disrespect you though. I might make mention of it to her if she is doing it right in front of you, but then you run the risk of appearing insecure, which is the worst possible case scenario. Probably the best thing you could do is not consider her a long term prospect, and look at options for spinning more plates.

There's also a question of what is she doing that you consider flirting? Is she giving kino to other guys (really bad sign)? Making suggestive comments? If she is just talking to them I don't think I would consider it flirting. There's nothing wrong with a little flirting even if you two were exclusive, but if she's a heavy flirter it's a huge red flag.

Just remember that if she is the type of girl who is always flirting with guys, it says more about her than about you. Don't let it undermine your confidence, because this would be a part of her problem, not a problem with you. Be the prize.

 

[chrisgoodrich25]

Beware of getting oneitis with this girl, I repeat, do not get oneitis. If she is fliritng with everyone while seeing you I would see this as a red flag. But she is within her right to do this, you've only been seeing her three weeks, you can't really see this as an exclusive thing.

Chances are there is not much you can do to change her personality if that's the way she is, so I would just do your best to pretend not to care. Don't let her disrespect you though. I might make mention of it to her if she is doing it right in front of you, but then you run the risk of appearing insecure, which is the worst possible case scenario. Probably the best thing you could do is not consider her a long term prospect, and look at options for spinning more plates.

There's also a question of what is she doing that you consider flirting? Is she giving kino to other guys (really bad sign)? Making suggestive comments? If she is just talking to them I don't think I would consider it flirting. There's nothing wrong with a little flirting even if you two were exclusive, but if she's a heavy flirter it's a huge red flag.

Just remember that if she is the type of girl who is always flirting with guys, it says more about her than about you. Don't let it undermine your confidence, because this would be a part of her problem, not a problem with you. Be the prize.

your a godamn fool who posted last...look if you want an antisocial woman..than you should go after an anti social broads..look.. if you want a chick that could make you some money than...stick it out....she might have the kinda personality..but who know..3 weeks aint ****...**** them *****es they always be cutting up...worry about it after a couple of years not weeks

 

[Georgey]

okay i think zikko is right.. but just don't mention anything, it will look insecure and dumb, coz she might not have feelings for u. but im wondering maybe she's doing that to make u feel jalous.
anyway, i say just keep going out with her, take her by the hand and say:' let's go get some ice cream" or take her out bowling or karting.. anything with some action.. not the ordinary dinner date.
go teasing her more, like make fun of her sometimes when she says something stupid, laugh at her...be fun man for this while.
from there u'll be able to tell if she is into u or not. if she accepts ur date ideas, if she smiles at u and thinks ur funny. those r good signs.

 

[zekko]

okay i think zikko is right.. but just don't mention anything, it will look insecure and dumbQUOTE]
I think this statement is correct. I am right, and don't mention anything because it will make you look insecure.

I know three weeks is not a long time, but I am the prize, dammit. If a girl has a chance to be with me, she'd better get her ducks in a row and not blow her opportunity