I originally was going to put this thread in the general discussions but as I wrote it, I feel that it might be better suited in health and fitness.
Hey DJ'ers......I'm curious as to your feelings on this.
My observation is that being physically in shape has led to women dismissing the "just friends" mentality.
Let me share an element of my background.
A little over ten years ago, I was in middle school. I was in the horrible "ackward" stage. My body was unproportional, my hair was a nappy mess and I paid no attention to my physical appearance. I like to remember those days, it reminds me to stay focused on my current goals! Needless to say, I didn't get many girls. The girls that I liked, would be nice to me, but almost always said the dreaded, "I think of you like a brother" or "we're just friends". The girls I did go out with are not girls that us DJ'ers are worthy of!
In high school, I began hitting the weights. Unfortunately, my focus was more on strength than appearance. This led to me eating like a horse, and while I was getting stronger, my belly was getting larger! Note, the benefit of this regimen was that while I focused on core exercises (Bench, Squats, Deadlifts), my frame began to change. A benefit that has led to broad shoulders, a large chest/ribcage, and the appearance of a smaller wasteline. (I'm ellaborating because I think it might help some young DJ'ers that are hitting the weights now).
After college, I began to lift again as a hobby. This time, solely focused on changing my body image. I've been doing this for almost three years and I'm still amazed at how women react. Just as an example, women at work will ask me to flex for them, or hold my upper arms (shoulders, chest, ass) and even make sexual remarks about my body. DJ'ers, you know that I love the attention, but bare in mind this is an office setting where such behavior is taboo! It's a long way from the "you're my brother" lines I got in my ackward younger days!
DJ'ers, I'm no Calvin Klein model, so I hope you don't take this as post as being conceded. My real intention is to share in hopes that other DJ'ers have experienced this too. I would love to hear about it. I think it's great motivation to keep hitting the weights and it keeps those "lets be friends" comments where they belong!
Hey DJ'ers......I'm curious as to your feelings on this.
My observation is that being physically in shape has led to women dismissing the "just friends" mentality.
Let me share an element of my background.
A little over ten years ago, I was in middle school. I was in the horrible "ackward" stage. My body was unproportional, my hair was a nappy mess and I paid no attention to my physical appearance. I like to remember those days, it reminds me to stay focused on my current goals! Needless to say, I didn't get many girls. The girls that I liked, would be nice to me, but almost always said the dreaded, "I think of you like a brother" or "we're just friends". The girls I did go out with are not girls that us DJ'ers are worthy of!
In high school, I began hitting the weights. Unfortunately, my focus was more on strength than appearance. This led to me eating like a horse, and while I was getting stronger, my belly was getting larger! Note, the benefit of this regimen was that while I focused on core exercises (Bench, Squats, Deadlifts), my frame began to change. A benefit that has led to broad shoulders, a large chest/ribcage, and the appearance of a smaller wasteline. (I'm ellaborating because I think it might help some young DJ'ers that are hitting the weights now).
After college, I began to lift again as a hobby. This time, solely focused on changing my body image. I've been doing this for almost three years and I'm still amazed at how women react. Just as an example, women at work will ask me to flex for them, or hold my upper arms (shoulders, chest, ass) and even make sexual remarks about my body. DJ'ers, you know that I love the attention, but bare in mind this is an office setting where such behavior is taboo! It's a long way from the "you're my brother" lines I got in my ackward younger days!
DJ'ers, I'm no Calvin Klein model, so I hope you don't take this as post as being conceded. My real intention is to share in hopes that other DJ'ers have experienced this too. I would love to hear about it. I think it's great motivation to keep hitting the weights and it keeps those "lets be friends" comments where they belong!
