Being "friends" with a girl - the true definition

[ScrewIt]

From the dawn of time, man and women co-existed and together they pro-created. The man has the ****, the woman has the *****.

So my point is, when a girl LJBF or uses the term "friend" on a guy. Subconsciously it can mean anything. Consciously, it's to define a relationship with a guy that is not exclusive (bf/gf).
However, the term is very broad and can be distinguished in any manner.

The other day i was out on a date with this chick, and she didnt know what to call our relationship since we're not exlusive. So she use the word friend several times. I was holding her hands (like a couple), so i knew she didnt understand the logical term of friend. nuff said, at the end of the night i was making out with her in the park.

SO GUYS, if a girl LJBF you dont take it too harsh.
women just dont know what they're talking about.
It's ******** for, you're interesting and i like you, but what you decide to do with me is in your hands.
It will only mean something more if the guy makes his move or else he'll just be trapped in his term "of the friends zone".
A lot of times they use this method to keep the guy around until he's ballsy enough to make his move.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

true points and false points... the girl you dated was not unique but her ideas weren't mainstream, they were confused.

The girl didn;t know what to call you, I'd have her biting her lip while she said "we're um friends" but that might just be my mojo that makes em think that way.

When a girl says LJBF to your face after you MAKE A MOVE on her than it means just that and you should move on, or just be friends, there are girls who I love dearly and have ****ed time and time again, but our relationships, life choices, and schedules, didn't match from the start, so we decided to just be friends... simple as that.

LJBF is cliche these days, most guys have heard iot, and intelligent girls use it to tell you what has been said in the past... sometimes guys get past the point of no return and demand that they are correct, and they get gunned down everytime for not learning from others mistakes.

I've had girls LJBF me, I knew I was wrong as I made no moves on her, but took her signals as saying that I was in... I didn;t make her give me the signals, but I tricked myself into saying I was the prize enough to believe that I did.

Sometimes girls keep you around cause your pathetic and you need somebody to keep an eye over you... or you've got deep pockets and you like to give away free stuff, she notcies and you give her an excuse as to why you are so generous. She will accept the excuse, and in the back of her mind you have been LJBF'd. What you don't realize is, after you show her some of your value and give it away for free she takes it and says thanks for the free gift, and flirts with you, without anything serious going on. You get good karma flowing through you, and bang, you keep coming back for more, believing she will crumble and give you what you've always wanted one of these days.

face it "LJBF" means LJBF... when a girl in your case says, we are friends than it is the wink that carries the meaning

kind of like at dinner when your with a girl at a family dinner, and she's got one of her feet riding up your leg. she says, me and scott are good friends, and gives your nads a good rub, you can put two and two together... but of course your already over the friends line......

 

[wheelin&dealin]

I don't think a girl has ever told me she just wanted to be "friends". I think this only happens to gut-less wonders who have no balls to make a move.

 

[superchristx]

I used to see this girl, she called me 'friend' from the very first introduction. Just like "How ya doin, friend?" After we had just had sex and I'm sending her home, she called me 'friend,' even after a hideous breakup, getting back together, and breaking up again, she called me 'friend' (until it got REALLY ugly, now she doesn't call me )

When I'm about to get a number, I say "hey we should be pals" "I could always use another friend" crap like that. Often, the words that come out of a persons mouth have NO relation to the truth WHATSOEVER. She can call me a friend, a lover, a big lizard, I dont care because I'm not even listening to her. No woman has actually used the expression, "LJBF" with me, but if one ever did I'd smile and say "great idea, I totally agree" then nibble on her ear a little bit.

 

[Bonhomme]

Not all LJBFs are the same

... but nowadays, I'm not bothered, and perfectly cool with being friends, albeit in a totally different way than the bad old days.

There are some gals who just want to be friends because they're very attracted to me, and are looking for a LTR, but not with me. It's a very different vibe than the "standard issue" LJBF.

Boner da Stoner alluded to such situations. Lots of attraction, but not enough compatibility. Gals tend to be less likely to be into a FB situation.

Most AFC LBJFs happen when the guy is not paying attention. the gal's simply being polite, and not attracted enough to him. Once you develop better ability to read a gal's interst level, that sort of thing rarely happens.

 

[unnamed04]

I diagree with the original post. Once a girl gives you the LJBF, there is really no point persuing any further. You'll either waste your time trying, or spend far too long getting to the goal which another girl could satisfy in a 50th of the time.

However, girls that you have known for a while for example may call you a "friend", but there is a big difference between a "friend" and a "just friend"; Therefore, until you are given the "just friend" line, all lights are green captain!

 

[MightyMate]

If i girl calls me frien and i dont feel like a friend i tell her. Itsn ot liek we are friends. We might be friends but might be something else. Always works.

 

[unnamed04]

It's all a matter of actions over words. If she is all over you and calling you friend, which are you going to believe?

Make the ho say no.

 

[( . )( . )]

A chick LJBFing you is a bit different to a chick whos clearly into you but confused as to what to label your relationship as.

Youve compared apples with oranges.

This "tip" is rubbish and is of no benefit to any man.

 

[DJ4Real]

LBJF is probably the most "direct" thing any girl/woman can say to you.

 

[ScrewIt]

alright alright. I wasnt thinking clearly when i posted this.
In my afc days i have been LJBF. So i know how it feels.

however the problem i see it when a girl LJBF a guy, is that once that happens, the guy doesnt even end up making a move. Who knows he probably could have changed things if he did. however a guy would just be better off if he made the move in the beginning.

 

[Jestor]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
From the dawn of time, man and women co-existed and together they pro-created. The man has the ****, the woman has the *****.

So my point is, when a girl LJBF or uses the term "friend" on a guy. Subconsciously it can mean anything. Consciously, it's to define a relationship with a guy that is not exclusive (bf/gf).
However, the term is very broad and can be distinguished in any manner.

The other day i was out on a date with this chick, and she didnt know what to call our relationship since we're not exlusive. So she use the word friend several times. I was holding her hands (like a couple), so i knew she didnt understand the logical term of friend. nuff said, at the end of the night i was making out with her in the park.

SO GUYS, if a girl LJBF you dont take it too harsh.
women just dont know what they're talking about.
It's ******** for, you're interesting and i like you, but what you decide to do with me is in your hands.
It will only mean something more if the guy makes his move or else he'll just be trapped in his term "of the friends zone".
A lot of times they use this method to keep the guy around until he's ballsy enough to make his move.

LJBF is not a test or an IOI. It means she is not into you. Any blatant rejection is not a sh*t test, but actual rejection.

Token resistance like "I don't know you well enough", can be overcome, but that has nothing to do with what you are talking about.