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Being comfy, like a teddy bear

RawkinKaoticStyle

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hahah that teddy bear part made you click to this post diden't it.

hahah naw jk

well heres the deal

i usually find myself being very uncomfortable, at times. I mean i would read , and read about ways to get the ladies . My mind would be full of information and i would think im ready. Untill i really get in the ring and i piss in my knickers.

but thats to the extreme, lol , now i can talk to ladies but i still feel uncomfortable.

Sometimes i would have clothing on that i havent woar in awhile and i would get that same feeling of being uncomfortable. That very feeling that prevents me from DJ to my highest ability.

So i finally sat down to think about this . I wanted to come to a position where i would be comfortable in any position, location, any chick, what ever. I wanted to be comfortable in every situation.

After a couple of oatmeal cookies and excessing talking in my head i came to the conclusion that the root of my being uncomfortable was my HABITS.

One day i came home to sense the smell of shyt in the house. I run up stairs to find a neat lofty load of poop sitting there staining the carpet as it omits the fumes that would make you shyt also, lol... soo i feel this UNCOMFORTABLE-NESS running through my body like a charge, and i run to my dog ( leaving the shyt to stain) and yell like a DJ on some addictive women drug. After acting on my emotions and throwing my dog outside, theres still **** on the carpet, i finally clean it up, then i go out side to yell more untill im satisfied. ( medded up huh)

Soo what i found out here was that , My dog hardly ever poops in the house, So when i come home every day , Ive made my own HABIT to not smell the scent of poop in the house. I smell what ever fake scent of fruits that my partents load the house up with. So when i come home and smell this UNEXPECTED smell, i feel this uncomfortable feeling run through me and i go bizzurck. I get mad and put blame on the dog when its really my fault for acting on my emotions. The real reasion is probley because i dident walk the little beast , if there should be blame it should be on me.

So with this ive decided that everyday, you set these little habits for yourself, weather its walking the way you walk or loging on to so suave, or eating oatmeal cookies, and the more you do it the more easier it gets, because it becomes a habit. The more you dont do , or dont see. The things that are unexpected are harder because you havent or bairly had experence with them.

Now its impossible ( well i think ) to debolish ( is that a word ) HABIT, i mean if you were to take away all habits you have each day, it would be insane, what about the driving habits, or the doing your homework habits, some habits can help you.

So what ive decided , and it sounds pretty logical, for all uncomfortable feeling to be away with is this:

ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE, accept the rage that runs through you when your dog ****s in the house, accept how hard it is to stop eating oatmeal cookies and have a carrot or 2, accept the discomfort that you feel when your about to approach a FINE CHICA MOMMA, accept it

ACCEPT IT BUT NEVER ACT ON IT

because the only reasion the discomfort is there is because you havent had a habit for it, or maybe your just starting it, or maybe you havent done it that much, what ever "IT" is.


When you accept the feeling , and do what ever you set out to do in the first place, weather it be approch that cutie over there , or work out because chicks are doing gymnastics on your love handels, once you accept the feeling, the feeling turns into comfortable-ness, if you gain the habit of accepting that your uncomfortable then you'll be able to be comfortable everywhere you go, beause you know the feeling inside is not permanent, it just because maybe your rusty, or you werent expecting something. So i guess its turing habit into use.

And i guess the first strp is to be aware of when your uncomfortable.

Now it sounded to me like it worked because of logic , but FAWK LOGIC, i wanted to really try it out, and i put on some cloths that i havent woar in a long time and i went out side, and i did fee uncomfortable, i just noticed it and i walked on. I started to do my usual saying HI to people, and by the time i got home the feeling of uncomfortable was completely gone.

so try it out for your self, if it doesent work , hey suck a nut.. make that your habit. lolz

(who cares about typos , if i have any)
 

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so teh point is ur dog ****s on ur carpet?
 

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^^No the point is that his dog sh1tting on the carpet set off a chain reaction of thoughts that eventually turned into this post.

The point is your going to be uncomfortable doing stuff and you will eventually get used to it. Word
 

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well the teddy bear in the thread definantly lured me into this thread :D


yes. intresting enough..i believe studies shown that it takes three weeks to devolop a habit. i don't have an exact link but if anybody would be oh so kind to find out for me if this is true. i will be thankful for that.
 
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