Being an Ass

[theapprentice]

I think my whole life I was told to be nice to people that acting a little ****y and throwing neg hits here and there are really hard for me. Not that I cant think of anything but I feel like its totally wrong to blow off a hot girl.

Shows you how superficial I am, I wouldnt have trouble blowing off a ugly girl.

When I talk to a decent chick I am worried that Ill get her upset which is so not Dj.

For some reason I cant be a little more mean or arrogant than I am now.


I mean I tell my self things like "There just bit*ches, or she only has boobs but no brains, etc...

Doesnt work.

 

[psychocandy]

I can't say that I'm the most experienced poster here, but It helps if you think about it this way: girls really like it when you bust on them, tease them and generally don't take them seriously.

That's why they smile, laugh, act all annoyed and playfully punch you and shyt like that. It's not like you're being some bully that makes them cry when they go home. The point is that you're having fun and making them (and yourself) feel good.

And treat all girls the same, whether it's some UG that's been hanging around you all night or Adriana Lima.

 

[theapprentice]

hmm..

I dont know whats telling me or where its comming from, but when I am in the presence of a good looking women, its telling me, forcing me to put her on a pedastel even if I dont want to consciencely.

I know they like it, they love it, and if they dont they can go f*ck themselves, but see its easy to say online than it is when her nice boobs are in your face, you cant help it.

I am a very horny guy, like even seeing the back of a woman and seeing a decent figure will get me going.

 

[GatorBait]

I dont know whats telling me or where its comming from, but when I am in the presence of a good looking women, its telling me, forcing me to put her on a pedastel even if I dont want to consciencely.

I know they like it, they love it, and if they dont they can go f*ck themselves, but see its easy to say online than it is when her nice boobs are in your face, you cant help it.

I am a very horny guy, like even seeing the back of a woman and seeing a decent figure will get me going.

Go out one night with you buddies and make a goal for yourself. Go out and actually make it a goal to try to bust on the girls and be so ****y/funny that you think it would turn the girls off. Don't even worry about being rejected, in fact, you kind of want to be rejected. You'll quickly realize how easy it is and I'm sure you'll see positive feedback from many of the girls.

 

[theapprentice]

ic

So its in the not caring that we acomplish. I mean just seeing a good looking girl would put me on the edge, if she would say no or laugh, I say "haha stupid" but I would feel like crap as I walked away.

I guess I really care about girls on the inside, I mean how can you not, when they have their body and capacity to make you feel good.

 

[GatorBait]

So its in the not caring that we acomplish. I mean just seeing a good looking girl would put me on the edge, if she would say no or laugh, I say "haha stupid" but I would feel like crap as I walked away.

I guess I really care about girls on the inside, I mean how can you not, when they have their body and capacity to make you feel good.

Here's how you not care: you can strike out with one girl and guess what? An hour later you'll find a chick that is just as good looking as her. It's as easy as that. I strike out with one girl at a club and I'm not worrying about it because later that night I'm at home banging one of the other hot chicks I approached.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

So its in the not caring that we acomplish. I mean just seeing a good looking girl would put me on the edge, if she would say no or laugh, I say "haha stupid" but I would feel like crap as I walked away.

I guess I really care about girls on the inside, I mean how can you not, when they have their body and capacity to make you feel good.

HAIR: Is that a wig? Oh...well it looks nice anyway.
I think your hair would look better (up/down)
What do you call that hairstyle, the waffle? (smile)

NOSE: How cute...your nose wiggles when you talk! Say something again (smile).

EYES: You blink allot.

TALK: You spit allot.

NAILS: Nice nails, are they real? Oh...well they look nice anyway.

HANDS: You kinda have man's hands.

Are just some examples of neg-raps.

 

[theapprentice]

ic

See I guess I dont view good looking women as equal oppurtunity providers. I think that if one women rejects me, all the other hot women will too.

 

[GatorBait]

See I guess I dont view good looking women as equal oppurtunity providers. I think that if one women rejects me, all the other hot women will too.

That's your problem then. Your self-esteem is tied to other people's (in this situation women's) opinion of you.

You need to get your sh!t straight and get some confidence in yourself.

 

[theapprentice]

yeah

yup I do...

I have this feeling that somehow we are all connected. IDk why.

 

[theapprentice]

hmm..

The important thing for me is to try to treat people based on their personalities, not on their looks.

Exaclty...

But take for example the rating system of HB 1-10. the reason we rate them is also eveidence of rarety. A Hb 8-10 is rarer than a 4. I see so many 4's, 5's and 6's all the time.

That seeing a good looking women is like "Oh wow, look we have somebody with good looks"

So just the fact that they are rare makes you treat them better, just because of their looks, since there are less 8 than 7's, lesser 6's than 4's etc.

So your basically asking me to 'pretend' that her looks are not rare, and that she deserves to be treated equally.

There is one redeeming quality and that is that she was lucky in the gene pool, so luck should not be rewarded with special treatment.

If she is fit then she has made the effort. Thats why its so important to be fit yourself, it helps your psyche to say "well she is fit, but so am I, why should I treat her special"

But if you where a fat sob it would be very hard to convince yourself that this girl is not 'special' 'rare'

Problem is that I dont feel worthy of good looking women. And if one girl turns me down, I feel like I dont stand a chance with the rest of them.

Root probelm....self esteem....fix...look better...so good looking girls dont seem to be any special than me.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

mr elor,

u totally nailed it dude..

"treat people based on their personality vs their looks"..

u have to realize just because someone looks a certain way, their personality can be totally opposite..IE: a 300 pound girl who honestly thinks she is attractive and dresses like shes 100 pounds.. she has a ton of confidence, but um she shouldnt lol).. so yea just alter ur game based on the woman, situation, and how ur feeling that day..

apprentice,

hang in there man.. u'll be aight

 

[theapprentice]

ic

SO your saying...

Take a womans looks and weigh them agiasnt her personality to develop a 'score' a hb 7 could be a hb 6 in life but her personality could be cool.

 

[Kings_royalty]

I guess I really care about girls on the inside, I mean how can you not, when they have their body and capacity to make you feel good.

No you don't, you just want to get laid. You care because you 'think' that is what they want in order to get what you want (some a$$).

When I talk to a decent chick I am worried that Ill get her upset which is so not Dj.

You are worried she'll get mad and not give you some a$$. Tension and drama can be very stimulating, $exually. Ever notice how make up $ex is always very intense?

I dont know whats telling me or where its comming from, but when I am in the presence of a good looking women, its telling me, forcing me to put her on a pedastel even if I dont want to consciencely.

It's the way you have been trained to think since birth (society, family, etc), that's all it is. You need to get rid of this type of thinking because it hasn't done $hit for you so far, right?

I know they like it, they love it, and if they dont they can go f*ck themselves, but see its easy to say online than it is when her nice boobs are in your face, you cant help it.


No, they don't. It's boring to them because 'everyone' kisses their a$$. They say they do, but underneath, they despise that treatment. They want a challenge, tension, excitement, drama, etc.

And you can help it, the problem is you let Mr. Winky do all the thinking for you.

I am a very horny guy, like even seeing the back of a woman and seeing a decent figure will get me going.

And here lies your biggest obstacle. Your $ex drive will be your biggest down fall with women if you don't learn to control it. When you are 'horny', you get impatient, you want satisfaction now, bad bad bad.


See I guess I dont view good looking women as equal oppurtunity providers. I think that if one women rejects me, all the other hot women will too.

There is no such thing as rejection, only a missed opportunity, FOR HER. Right?

 

[theapprentice]

amazing

The last post was a good kick in the butt. You didnt go out and explain some of the rationale behind some of the things, but your answers themselves lead me to conclude some.

But controling your horniness and still being sexual enough is a tough battle to fight since its a battle between brains and your coc*k.