I've been taking Salsa/Bachata lessons for over 2.5 years and I have been dancing with many women in the dance scenes and many are very pretty. So to boost up your So Suave game, it's good to learn to be a great dancer in Salsa/Bachata and you have pretty women in your arms all night. So dancing with women closely is part of the kino-test and make them feel closer to you, right? Also, smile while dancing too is good then you can go to the table and talk about her life.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Can confirm this. Salsa has certainly allowed me to meet and sex beautiful Mediterranean women. However I've also lost a few decent girls when they found out I wasn't anywhere close to their level. I recently bedded the hottest girl I've personally been with in my life, last week. Met her at a salsa night in May.
However, status is almost entirely correlated with your skills as a dancer. Anyone taking Bachata and Salsa shouldn't expect to benefit too much from it, in terms of attracting women, for atleast a year.
It is great for building your social circle though.
How would you bedded the girl at the Salsa classes? You ask for their phone numbers and befriend them on Facebook? I have not have sex with any of them yet, but it's nice to have them in my arms all night so I need to step up my sex games with them. Do you ask them to come to your house/apartment after the Salsa night to watch a movie then make your move on them, or do you ask them to go on a movie or dinner date on another night?
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But after one year you can prolly have fun with half the ladies in there, and it's fun.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I haven't bedded any women from my salsa classes. Although friendly with many.
Salsa classes - beginners to high intermediate (most "advanced" classes are actually intermediate level). Not much scope for gaming women. Focus on enjoying yourself and learning the routine. Great for building social circle and reputation as you will see the same people week in week out.
Salsa socials - these can be immediately following the class or separate events. Most of the big socials are on the weekend and have a token class early on at the start (usually around 8). The pros and hotties, who can dance well, usually don't arrive till late (11pm+). I got the number of the most beautiful salsa dancer I fvcked at the biggest salsa social of the month. Expect a high rejection rate. Many of the hot women there have zero intention of hooking up with guys and just want to enjoy dancing and those that do are likely to screen for men who share their passion for dance. In other words, atleast be around her level, ideally better. BUT if you aren't don't worry about it. Just have FUN.
Every salsa girl I've hooked up with has been significantly better than me. That comes with its own "problems" - they will fvck you a handful of times but interest may wane. However, a lot of the great male dancer aren't really doing anything in other areas of their lives. Basically they'd be bums. So if you have a good job, stay in shape, understand the game and you dance salsa you will be in high demand - especially amongst women who are either just starting out with salsa or have an interest in learning.
The great thing about salsa is that the community is not that big. So there is a domino effect. Once people get to see you are a cool guy and not just learning in order to hook up with women (really obvious and most guys like this don't stick around long) your reputation within the community grows exponentially. Ultimately it's about frame. Just enjoy it.
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I've been dancing Salsa/Bachata for over 2.5 years now and I'm considered a good Intermediate dancer. (I better be because I spend over $1K in private lessons from a Salsa Master lady. lol) I go to a Salsa class in Irvine, CA which have a Salsa Social right afterward, so I will be dancing with mostly the girls from my class.
How do you pick up the girl from the Salsa Social? Just talk to them for a few minutes then ask for their numbers? Ask to be friends on Facebook? Would you ask for their number if it's the first time you see them or you wait to see them 2 or 3 times first?
There are 3 girls that I know for a few months now, and I'm planning to ask for their Facebook name to be friends. Then we can chat on Facebook, then maybe I ask them to go see a movie then maybe bring them back to my house to bed them.
Where do you go for Salsa/Bachata btw?