i'm breaking copyright infriendgement for posting this, but (I told ya) there are certain posts that i see, I copy them and read 3-5 a day, even when I don't come here. this is one of them by rollo T
this is really more of an addendum to the Myth of the Quality Woman, but another common AFC contrivance is the presumption that less than desirable women will necessarily be found in bars & clubs (or other places of "ill repute"). Thus the chump will too eagerly avoid these places. This is, yet again, another example of the binary logic of an AFC and completely ignores that A.) women with whom they might make a successful connection with do in fact frequent clubs and B.) less than desirable women can also be met in "alternative" meeting places too (coffee house, university campus, library, bible study or any number of other "safe places"). However, making approaches in a club are difficult for the inexperienced DJ and the AFC alike. There's a lot of competition and a LOT of potential for rejection for the unprepared. Masking this deficit in game by disqualifying such places, the AFC thinks he's killing 2 birds with one stone - he's protecting his ego from very real rejection and he's lauded by "proper" society (see people who go to clubs anyway) for being an upstanding individual for avoiding those "dens of iniquity." It becomes an unassailable point of view because he's rewarded for his moral insight as a "deep" kind of guy for seeing clubs as seedy. This then feeds the "not like other guys" false sense of uniqueness.
My old oneitis..the one that, in order to get the job as a newsboadcaster dated /is now engaged to the vice presidents of the news statation's son,the same guy she called gay on a number of occusions, a nerd, ugly and laughed at while she was trying to get to his hotter friend who was a college dropout. it was only when she found out that this guys' dad worked at a place where she could not get hired for the last 5 years as an intern that she suddnely found him "interesting" and "unique". that same one used to camp out at barnes and noble, not because she was a great gal, or was special or liked to read, but "guys with money and good jobs go to barnes and noble".. and she was right. guys were all too happy to go there , find her, talk to her, and throw every other sign that she was an utter wreck, out the window, becuse of her hotness and the fact that she had to be smart becuase they met her in barnes in noble.
My GF now, I know here well enough to know that she would not be caught dead sitting around in barnes in noble. not becuase she doesn't read, she actually loves to read. But because she doesn't see the practcaility in sitting in barnes and noble reading a book, and feels that you can buy books cheaper on line. on the likewise, she likes a good drink from time to time (as did my old oneitis as well, the same girl who was sitting nice and cute at barnes and noble would routinly go out with me to strip clubs and suck me off on the way home from the club, she has/had a bad strip club fetish), who doesn't? so you would be more inclined to see her at a bar drinking a cosmp than you would sitting at barnes in noble "studying".
how hypocritical are we? we have a threat in the AE forum that says "how drunk do you get", and we beat our chest out demanding that hey youc an't outdrink me, i'm the drinking king! I sleep with a vodka IV hooked up to my arm damnit!
yet when we hold these same standards to women, they are *****s, sluts, not "quality" women.
I think part of the reason most guys suck with women is becuase the unrealistic standards we hold for the opposite sex. I can drink and go enjoy myself at a club, but a woman can't becuase only sluts go to clubs and bars. I can spin plates and Im' being smart, she has a couple of different men chasing her, she's a ***** that is not worthy of your time.
a funny story that puts it in persepctive. christmas i went back home to little rock with my GF and son. went ot visit my dad and my 18 year old brother was there. now, he's a real good looking kid, but doesn't have the social skills I or my dad had at his age. he's a momma's boy, she overprotects him. he's away at college and was home for the holidays.
so my GF asks him is he dating anyone and he goes on about her. so my dad, being my dad, says "have you fvcked her yet?" and he has this look on his face and says "I met her at the libary, and we went on a couple of dates, and to the movies, she doesn't like going out to parties and stuff".. my dad, honestly has this look on his face like he is dumbfounded.. he says "and?"
my brother says " well, she isn't like that"
My dad says "Caleb ( my brother), all women are like that"
I think, if you look at what women do in the light of what you do, things get a lot clearer.
