- Be Gone -
Do you have oneitis, do you have anxiety speaking to people in general, have a lack of control over yourself or over your actions and influences to other people or ever feel out of your depth? You need to BE GONE.
What ever obstacle you face in life, you cannot tackle it if you feel inadequate or ill-equipped. If your mind isnt from a source of motivation or confidence in your action, you will not get favourable results. Retreat and be gone to face the battle better prepared.
This stage may be for you to emotionally withdraw attention from a situation, maybe to physically distance yourself or hold back from making a move you are unsure of. For example, you see your oneitis regularly but dont have the confidence to approach, you need to hold back before you engage and make any moves. after you take steps to...
- Be Great -
You cannot fare well in a battle you havent prepared for. Train both the mind and the body and work on being the best. This stage is all about investment in yourself.
On investment - the whole reason that you get oneitus is because you have invested thoughts, time and maybe effort into the girl. the reason you want your dream job is because you have invested into its benefits, whether they be practical, social or because its an interest of yours. When you invest into something however, you become dependant on a desired outcome. You invested time and thoughts of the onitus and now you MUST have her. So suave regularly advocates spinning plates because it shares what would be investment in one girl over several. you cannot become totally dependant on an outcome because your investments are spread wide.
However it is key to invest in yourself. This investment will leave you feeling like the prize that so many speak of and will not leave you needing an outcome other than to keep improving.
To be great and invest in yourself, you should work out. This is key, work on building yourself physically as it is one of the most readily avaliable and visable ways to invest in yourself. You dont neccesarrily have to take out a gym membership, change your diet or expect to have every particular thing in place to start. just the fact that you work on yourself is enough investment as you have dedicated time into yourself, you will find that it will be harder not to focus on yourself after a while. Constantly think how you can improve yourself, dont dwell on what you lack, but what you deserve and what you can attain. you make yourself the center of your own universe. you suddenly become your own oneitus. how can you groom and style yourself to YOUR liking?, how can you build yourself to how YOU want to look? what can you learn that will improve YOUR thoughts on yourself. The aim is to gain a source of renewable validation, the kind of validation that doesnt need an outcome to grant it, the kind that is internal and can only be affected by YOU. YOU are the outcome of your own validation.
Again i stress that physical training is the best path to this stage. its not neccesarially about seeing gains or being ripped, but the effort you put into yourself. while you are doing as many pushups as you can or working on a killer ab routine, your mind will be justifying the reason such pain is allowed is because YOU are an investment. your brain will begin to see you as the prize. eventually you will see some improvements depending on how hard you work and what you focus on, and this will bring more validation. This mindset is the mindset of strength and will allow you to...
- Be Back -
be back to face the battle you was once ill prepared for. the oneitis is no longer taking up so much room in your mind because your mind is occupied by you. you have invested in yourself more than her so you are worth more. your actions will reflect your mindset. You new found mindset will allow you to better face social situations, be more of a go getter for what you want and be able to shrug off negative vibes from people who no longer validate you.
Do you have oneitis, do you have anxiety speaking to people in general, have a lack of control over yourself or over your actions and influences to other people or ever feel out of your depth? You need to BE GONE.
What ever obstacle you face in life, you cannot tackle it if you feel inadequate or ill-equipped. If your mind isnt from a source of motivation or confidence in your action, you will not get favourable results. Retreat and be gone to face the battle better prepared.
This stage may be for you to emotionally withdraw attention from a situation, maybe to physically distance yourself or hold back from making a move you are unsure of. For example, you see your oneitis regularly but dont have the confidence to approach, you need to hold back before you engage and make any moves. after you take steps to...
- Be Great -
You cannot fare well in a battle you havent prepared for. Train both the mind and the body and work on being the best. This stage is all about investment in yourself.
On investment - the whole reason that you get oneitus is because you have invested thoughts, time and maybe effort into the girl. the reason you want your dream job is because you have invested into its benefits, whether they be practical, social or because its an interest of yours. When you invest into something however, you become dependant on a desired outcome. You invested time and thoughts of the onitus and now you MUST have her. So suave regularly advocates spinning plates because it shares what would be investment in one girl over several. you cannot become totally dependant on an outcome because your investments are spread wide.
However it is key to invest in yourself. This investment will leave you feeling like the prize that so many speak of and will not leave you needing an outcome other than to keep improving.
To be great and invest in yourself, you should work out. This is key, work on building yourself physically as it is one of the most readily avaliable and visable ways to invest in yourself. You dont neccesarrily have to take out a gym membership, change your diet or expect to have every particular thing in place to start. just the fact that you work on yourself is enough investment as you have dedicated time into yourself, you will find that it will be harder not to focus on yourself after a while. Constantly think how you can improve yourself, dont dwell on what you lack, but what you deserve and what you can attain. you make yourself the center of your own universe. you suddenly become your own oneitus. how can you groom and style yourself to YOUR liking?, how can you build yourself to how YOU want to look? what can you learn that will improve YOUR thoughts on yourself. The aim is to gain a source of renewable validation, the kind of validation that doesnt need an outcome to grant it, the kind that is internal and can only be affected by YOU. YOU are the outcome of your own validation.
Again i stress that physical training is the best path to this stage. its not neccesarially about seeing gains or being ripped, but the effort you put into yourself. while you are doing as many pushups as you can or working on a killer ab routine, your mind will be justifying the reason such pain is allowed is because YOU are an investment. your brain will begin to see you as the prize. eventually you will see some improvements depending on how hard you work and what you focus on, and this will bring more validation. This mindset is the mindset of strength and will allow you to...
- Be Back -
be back to face the battle you was once ill prepared for. the oneitis is no longer taking up so much room in your mind because your mind is occupied by you. you have invested in yourself more than her so you are worth more. your actions will reflect your mindset. You new found mindset will allow you to better face social situations, be more of a go getter for what you want and be able to shrug off negative vibes from people who no longer validate you.
