Bar scene, not for me

[RantinRave]

Dude - I can tell you're on the right track. There's no 'big secret', just confidence.

Going out with people has an advantage, because they can always look to their left and look to their right and have somebody to talk to. Though chances are they aren't meeting anybody new. This is what you're trying to do.

Day game? Sure, go ahead and do it. Only way to find out is to just try it out. What's the worst that can happen, right? If you can't think of anything to say try and think of 10 questions (along with follow ups) before going out and trying. A little advice is to not to think - 'Oh that's a stupid question'. You'd be surprised how many conversations start with

'Hey - what are you drinking?.' Followed up with

'Do you always drink that?'.

Sounds corny and I wouldn't recommend using it. Just goes to show anything can work.

If it helps build the confidence a little bit by running or lifting the night before going out can work.

Another note - Don't expect anything. Just go out to have fun and think of it as a challenge.

Keep up the good work man.

 

[Vanilla]

I'm doing better with day game than night game, but I'm learning.

I went an hour before closing time, but I realized that there weren't many left, so I listened to them talk for a half n hour. I didn't have anything to add, just drank and enjoyed the convorsations. I didn't care that I went home alone again, being exposed to the social scene really helps. It was also hard because I noticed there were 5 guys after this one girl who had a bro who was ten times the size of me which was intimidating.

My goal this year is to get one drunk woman home in bed. Any tips for that happening? I'm going to try the SF club this weekend to see if I can isolate and bring her home.