"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Awkward First Day

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So I just started today at a community college in a new area since i just moved, and i basically dont know anybody, anyways i was so afc today, everyone was around talking before class and i didnt know what to do, i didnt talk to anybody i just walked around, i wasnt trying to be social in some classes, but i felt like i couldnt even talk like i was talking so soft, usually im pretty loud and funny and talkative, but when it comes to new things i just shut off and cant socialize, How am i gonna meet knew people like this!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Community colleges, I'm guessing, tend to be fairly cliquish because lots of the people there went to the same high schools. Don't sweat it; it's not entirely your fault.

My advice:
1) Try harder to socialize
2) Seek out your own high school friends for some support/wingmen.
 

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It all starts with a Hi/Hey.
You add, I noticed you were...
And there, a conversation.

Rinse and repeat.
 

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quite right. The very least you can do is converse with the guys/gals sitting next to you. It's not like you have anything better to do while you're there.
 

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thanks guys, i really appereiciate your advice, but idk man i dont have any friends here, and i was just a blank quite kid today, really frustrating because i know i have this great personality i can show people, but it just isnt happening
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i dont have any friends here
Make some

i was just a blank quite kid today
That's too bad...

i know i have this great personality i can show people
Well?
 

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i've been on both sides of the fence, community college and universitys, and it is much hard to make friends and meet people at community college. you can always make comments after class to people and see how they respond. also, sign up for facebook, and try using that!
 

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it wont just happen cause alot of people are just as scared as you are to start a conversation and more of them are so mundane they wont do anything to make their lifes better for fear of losing what they think they have. i can tell you really want to get to know people at your college. i was once there to. get to know a few people just think up a few conversation starters besides hows the weather such as what Docs told you earlier and the people who blow you off. Screw EM and those who talk back and give a name try to remember them and where you seen them and you can talk to them when you see them. just talk like you know them and dont worry what they think about you cause thats the main cause of awkward conversations or at least in most of my awkardest cases. and remember even the funnest and most lively people in the world have their occasional awkward moments.
 

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thanks guys, but Doc, why u being so obnoxious like that, those arent answers, they are just ok u dont have friends, THEN MAKE THEM, what kind of **** is that, eh watever
 

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he has a point

On the other hand, I've been to very cliquish groups and tried to befriend people so I know it's not always as easy as Doc says. Still, you shouldn't quit trying. What else are you gonna do when you're at community college: Just do your homework, show up, and listen to the teacher? Freakin' talk to people. You don't even know if the people are cliquish/unfriendly if you haven't tried socializing.

And read the Bible if you haven't yet.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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alright ill make it a goal to have a conversation with one person each day, and ill keep u guys updated
 

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hah, try one every class, n00b. The main reason your day is awkward is because you're sitting in a desk next to another person without trying to communicate with them.
 
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