Avoiding getting stood up

[EJay]

This seems to be a problem with my game.
A good number of my dates have stood me up. For example met this girl at a friend's bday party, get her number, chat and flirt via text, I got a few IOIs so I set up a date. I even say it's a date up front so she knows what to expect, that way if she flakes out right then I can next her right away w/o wasting time and money.
What are some good ways to avoid getting stood up?

 

[TheException]

met this girl at a friend's bday party, get her number, chat and flirt via text, I got a few IOIs so I set up a date. I even say it's a date up front so she knows what to expect, that way if she flakes out right then I can next her right away w/o wasting time and money.

This is the problem^

You are overtly trying to hit on girls. When you say stuff like "its a date" or "oh by the way, this is a date".....that gets translated to the female brain as "Hey, I want to get into your pants".

You dont need to have that sort of communication being overtly present. She gets it....women arent that dumb....they know its a date. You just approach it like you guys are "hanging out". Escalate covertly and next thing you know shes telling all her friends that it "just happened".

 

[SgtSplacker]

Typically I don't ever make plans like that unless I have to. I'll tell a girl "hey lets do something Friday, i'll call you Friday to plan" Then i'll give her a call on Friday and figure out whats best to do. We'll talk about cool stuff to do and make a decision together were both excited about.

I avoid at all costs telling a girl up front it's a date. Unless she's super into me and she really want's to know it's going to be a date then sure.

It just feels so stagnant to have a "date" planned for a week. Ugh, what if I want to do something else on Friday?

So when Friday comes around i'm not going to leave her a message or text referencing the supposed "date". I'll just call her to see what's going on. If she flakes it's not like we had something planned like that. She just didn't pick up one phone call is all. And leaving the night open I can start a dialogue about the things I do on weekends that maybe we can do together (little chance to DHV here). I'll make sure I suggest cool and fun stuff to do on weekends to get her excited about the night out.

 

[EJay]

I like the idea of calling her, really gives no room for error when we talk about going out. I'll also try keeping it more casual just saying we're hanging out. Can't that open the door to friend zone though?

 

[Atom Smasher]

Never call a get-together a "date", and never say "let's hang out".

Women are intimidated by the former (too much expectation), and they find the latter wishy-washy.

What they do like is when you already have an activity planned, and you tell her she should join you. That's what they respond well to.

 

[GotED?]

What they do like is when you already have an activity planned, and you tell her she should join you. That's what they respond well to.

THIS is absolutely TRUE for me as well. A very SMOOTH DJ move and non-threatening, carefully laying down your BOOBytraps without setting off her b!tch shields.

I usually bullsh!t and say I am going to this so and so movie at what time on what day coming up, and if she wants to join me that would be great since her company is appreciated over going alone by myself. If she has HIGH INTEREST, she will attempt to counter-offer a different day or tell you otherwise when she's free if she can't make it.

I even had a HB7 woman who had a boyfriend accept joining me for a movie on a Satuday night when he was at work LOL....


WIN-WIN tactic.

Great post, ASS-SMASHER! :box:

Exodus

 

[EJay]

Brilliant! I love that approach, I'll try that next.