average height not IMO 5'8-5'9

[IrishGuy23]

I suffer from an insecurity and obsession with regard to my height. (Barefoot-somewhere between 5'8 and 5'9). Mentally dealing with this has and continues to be very difficult....I do have my phases where it isn't to the forefront of my thoughts, however recently and in particular today it's playing on my mind again. Hence this little outburst....I'm not really looking for advice, as i know my thoughts aren't entirely rational...there are more things to life than how far you are above the ground! I guess this is just me venting...

anyway, today I decided to perform a semi-scientific experiment by keeping a track of the number of men above and below my height that I encountered during my day. This was done in a university setting so the sample would be in the 18-30 age bracket predominantly. So far the result hasn't been good: an optimistic estimate would be a ratio of 3:1 ...in other words at the very, very best I am taller than 25% of the male population. In addition the guys who i did come across who were shorter, were usually middle-aged or older...so if I'm just comparing with my peers this percentage drops even lower.

On the positive side of things, at 5'8 I am still taller than a sizeable majority of the female population, (although today I've observed so far 15 women that are taller than me)!

I realise this is probably one of the most pathetic posts ever to appear on these boards. I don't think I'm looking for attention, at least consciously. More it's just a self-therapeutic need to express the thoughts that have been running through my head all day..rather than keeping them bottled up.

Anyway, empirical conclusions....5'9 is not "average" height....and I'm f***ed up in the head!

 

[scribblec]

im 5 9 and it makes barely any difference, as long as the girls shorter then me then we are good to go

 

[Kerpal]

There's no way that 5'9 is average height in the US. I've heard that before and it always makes me wonder where the hell these people are getting their statistics from. I'm 5'11 and I think I'm below average height.

 

[AAAgent]

i'm 5'11 and i feel i'm above average. then again i hang out with alot of asians and that is definately above average for asians.

 

[russell]

dude height ain't no thing. unless you're like 5 5 or below. and even then all you gotta do is step up your game.

 

[WC2]

Stop being a pvssy. I'm 5'8 and I don't have problems pulling women. It's not your height, it's your confidence.

 

[flint]

Haha dude I would kill to be 5'8", but you've gota deal with the hand you're dealt with. Know how tall I am? 4'11".

I don't know if I buy that somebody that's like 5 ft tall can just be confident and pull a 9 or something, but I've had girlfriends before and stuff. What it comes down to is you need to carry yourself like a leader. Whenever I'm working with a group, or if I'm speaking in public, I take the lead because I know I'm the best at what I do. Just keep the right mindset.

And by the way I have a friend that's 5'8" that pulls hotties all the time. I know people say that stuff all the time but its true.

 

[nightcrawler]

I suffer from an insecurity and obsession with regard to my height. (Barefoot-somewhere between 5'8 and 5'9). Mentally dealing with this has and continues to be very difficult....I do have my phases where it isn't to the forefront of my thoughts, however recently and in particular today it's playing on my mind again. Hence this little outburst....I'm not really looking for advice, as i know my thoughts aren't entirely rational...there are more things to life than how far you are above the ground! I guess this is just me venting...

anyway, today I decided to perform a semi-scientific experiment by keeping a track of the number of men above and below my height that I encountered during my day. This was done in a university setting so the sample would be in the 18-30 age bracket predominantly. So far the result hasn't been good: an optimistic estimate would be a ratio of 3:1 ...in other words at the very, very best I am taller than 25% of the male population. In addition the guys who i did come across who were shorter, were usually middle-aged or older...so if I'm just comparing with my peers this percentage drops even lower.

On the positive side of things, at 5'8 I am still taller than a sizeable majority of the female population, (although today I've observed so far 15 women that are taller than me)!

I realise this is probably one of the most pathetic posts ever to appear on these boards. I don't think I'm looking for attention, at least consciously. More it's just a self-therapeutic need to express the thoughts that have been running through my head all day..rather than keeping them bottled up.

Anyway, empirical conclusions....5'9 is not "average" height....and I'm f***ed up in the head!

Same here, I am 5'7.75"-5'8.25" and I feel short as ****. I absolutely hate it when females are taller than me.

 

[Bible_Belt]

fwiw, there are UFC fighters who are five-six and can beat the crap out of all of us.

All that matters with girls is how you make them feel. Insecurity over height is a self-fulfilling prophecy, because women sense it and they are plenty insecure themselves already, which is why confidence is attractive. If you can begin to see that it is only real because it is real in your head, then I think that would be the first step in getting over it.

also fwiw, I am six-two and the guy my wife left me for is five-four. All that matters is how you make them feel. The height thing is all in your head.

 

[Freeman]

by now I would hope you would understand that sometimes you get the short end of the stick and thats just the way it is-as everybody else has been saying on here-youre height aint got sh*t to do with it-your swagger sucks-you have no real confidence in yourself and chicks pck up on that sh*t easily-Hell theres one guy on here that said he's like 4'11 so really stop whinning about being 5'8. You could be 6'1 and have a 20 pack and still get no play because you self-esteem sucks-work on how you percieve yourself-not your height.

 

[bigjohnson]

There's no way that 5'9 is average height in the US. I've heard that before and it always makes me wonder where the hell these people are getting their statistics from. I'm 5'11 and I think I'm below average height.

They measure a bunch of citizens and sum the results, then divide by the number of people measured.

 

[IrishGuy23]

Thanks for the feedback guys, much appreciated. I do realise I shouldn't be whining about something that's outside of my control, and in the end doesn't matter too much.

I must admit I am feeling much better now than at the beginning of the day. I knew from the outset that my little experiment was an exercise in folly, and would only result in feeling shi***....I guess I'm prone to self-sabotage.

Funnily enough I took some encouragement and inspiration from a French quote I saw graffitied in the public bathroom, basically saying to have pride in oneself and to get off one's knees. A poster above expressed the nub of the issue best in saying one should "carry himself like a leader".

I'm certain I'll lapse back into my negative thinking sometime in the future, I just need to find a way to deal with it so that it does not impinge drastically on my life....whether it be in the field of seduction, or just simply getting my sh** together.

 

[focalpoint]

I was out playing team games with some friends, and we were splitting up. I'm the smallest, 5'9" if I bother to stand up straight; my friends are 5'10", 6'1" and 6'2".

An attractive girl commenting from the sidelines gestured at us and mentioned, "Wow, you're all the same height."

At which point, I realized that even if I was dimensionally smaller, it clearly didn't matter that much.

 

[eaglez1177]

Im 5'10 but I wish I was 6 foot that wud be amazing

 

[Mr_rogers]

I'm over 6'1" and have real problems with women. Height really, really doesn't matter that much.

 

[Analyzeit]

I'm 6ft it doesn't matter that much unless your really short, but it's just another thing that goes into the women's selection project along with millions of others, but its one thing that you can't change or is very hard to change

I suppose you just have to ignore it nothing you can do

 

[playerone]

I think we're fine as long as the woman we're dating are not tall to the extent that we must look up to talk to them. (uncomfortably)

 

[Irs88]

Im pretty much 5 8'. Wish I was taller..but it has NEVER been close to the reasons why I felt inferior to other alpha males. Its more due to experience, personality, and being the "newb/inexperienced one" in the group. Of course, even those reasons don't really phase me these days.

 

[eatgel]

IM 5,6 and I can get with ALMOSt any girl I want guys, getting girls aint that big of a deal.. but getting authentic confidence and finding purpose in life is 10x harder

 

[Lexington]

Yeah, you're 5'8 but there are LOTS of hot girls that a 5'8 and below. And who's to say that you can't pull a taller girl? I know it's not all that common but I know more than one guy who is married to/dating a girl taller than him.

One of my friends' wife is not only about an inch and a half taller than him, but she has broader shoulders too; she has a bigger frame. If he didn't have more muscle mass, he'd be outweighed by her too (and she's not a fatty, she's just tall....6'1 or so).