"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Attractiveness

beastmaster79

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The more people I interact with the more I get a sense for what attractiveness is.

Its kinda like a recipe for a cake or something. You need the right amount of certain ingredients.

I'd say confidence and an upbeat attitude is the most important ingredient. Being comfortable with yourself. This is the flour. Without it there would be no cake. You can't get others to accept you if you haven't accepted yourself. To get this you need experience with a lot of people.

Next is the sugar and spice. This is your charm, wit, charisma, sense of humor, ability to connect with people, influence a group, keep a conversation going, etc. Your ability to improve people's moods. An infectious sense of fun. This is the sweetness that makes the cake a desert. But sugar and spice only goes so far. Too much or in the wrong combination and you come across as a clown who's trying too hard.

The baking soda/powder is key becuase its whats makes the cake rise. This is your body language. Without it the cake would be a soupy mess and look like cow ****. This gives the cake its physical presence which makes it recognizable as a cake. Likewise if you're the man and you carry yourself like the man people will understand you're the man.

The eggs and butter are what give the cake its substance. This is your authenticity which enhances all your other traits. Are you being yourself? Are you being genuine? Are you doing things for yourself or to please others? Fake people just like fat-free deserts are simply not satisfying. To much of these ingredients and you would come across as gushy.

Finally the frosting. This is your looks, physique, style and hygeine. If you've got this its much more likely that women will approach you. People are much more likely to take a bite if you you've got the frosting figured out. The less frosting you have the more of all the other ingredients you will need. Also, its much easier to get people to be open to taking a bite of your cake if they like you're frosting. On the other hand if you only have frosting people may take a lick but will never cut themselves a slice of your cake.

If you've all the ingredients besides the frosting you'r fresh cake will smell awesome just like charismatic people radiate their personality, regardless of looks. And if you've got a ****ty personality the cake might look good but it might stink.


Note: There are also many ingredients that you would never wan't in a cake. like worcestire suace or anchovies or pickles or onions. These are the disqualifyers. Try to eliminate the ones you have control over. This would be bad BO, bad teeth, affiliation with the wrong people, an annoying laugh, ask people close to you to give you an honest opinion on these things. Even brad pitt would be unkissable if he had septic breath.

Ask yourself one question. What kind of cake are you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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