Attraction tenets to date by (and you won't need to ask questions for help anymore)

[DonJuanabe]

1) If a girl is attracted to you she will f*ck you by the third date. If she isn't, she won't.

2) If a girl is attracted to you she will do just about any activity you want to do on a date whether it's dinner or shooting hoops.

3) If a girl is attracted to you dating will be simple, smooth. If she isn't it will be complicated and confusing.

4) If a girl is attracted to you she will want to talk with you as much as she possibly can. If she isn't she will be busy, not have time to talk.

5) If a girl is attracted to you she will never say anything derogatory to you. If she isn't she will insult you.

6) If a girl is attracted to you she will smile when she sees you. If she isn't you'll get a look of either ambivalence, anger, or sullenness.

If you get negative aspects of these tenets from the girl you are with you don't have to ask why this is; you know why it is -- she isn't attracted to you or the attraction is waning. It isn't complicated. What you generally need to do at that point is go NC -- you can't FORCE attraction but you can encourage it via scarcity (since a scarce good generally has higher value).

 

[SoSuave666]

I am wary about following a couple of your "tenants."

Rule #1 isn't always true, and I think it's very indecent of people to apply a 3 date rule to an entire gender. What if she is a virgin, on her period, having a "smelly" day, or just not the type of girl that sleeps with guys so soon? I have had plenty of women sleep with me on the 4th, 5th, 10th date. Also, if you applied this logic to most women, they would have all 30 secksual partners by the time they are 21. Women go on dates like you check this site. If every third date turned out to be a secksual encounter, the woman bashing on this site would be at an all time high.

Rules 2/3 are pretty accurate I believe.

Rule 4 is definitely not true. Women will let you know they are available if they are interested in you. Most women play some variation of hard to get. They may not be texting you all the time, but they will let you know when they are available. Two different things.

Rule 5 is kind of interesting. I banter a lot with the women I am interested in. I also know they are interested in me. We will tease each other, joke, and play around like that. Hell, women that are interested in me call me an *******, jerk, what have you then ask for secks right after. They can insult you, but they won't mean it. I guess insult is the wrong word for me to use. They can tease you for sure. So maybe you're right on this one. Our verbiage might just be different.

6 is pretty true.

 

[DonJuanabe]

1 - I am looking at this in terms of one date per week so now three weeks. After that long most women who are attracted to someone are going to sleep with that person. Certainly if, at dinner, she eats something bad and gets food poisoning, she isn't going to want to have sex. There will always be outlying situations (period, sick, yeast infection, etc.) but assuming all is well, it holds pretty true.

4 - I was thinking not in terms of the first couple dates, but after you've been dating and are past the "I have to play aloof" stage. You might not yet be exclusive but you are dating.

5 - yes, teasing is NOT the same as insulting. Context and style matter, not just words per se.