"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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attention wh0ring or genuinely interested?

big weezy

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this girl im suppose to meet but im not really that into (bit too skinny and way too tall for me) replied to my text yesterday after i already left starbucks, i didn't explicitly tell her to meet me i just said 'here's my number' but the day before on facebook i told her i'd text her when i was down as i study at the starbucks near where she lives.

anyway she texts me like 5 hours later and i already left, saying some rubbish asking how i am.. i couldn't be bothered to reply there and then so i was gona do it later in the evening.

then before midnight she texts me again saying sorry for not replying sooner and asking me some other BS question if i saw any hot girls there.

i think shes just impatient but i know shes one of these girls who dislikes people who dont text back and also likes people who text back straight away.

is she just trying to get my attention that's all?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chickfight

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Don't be the guy who does all the things she SAYS she likes.
I mean she took 5 hours to reply to your txt.
Also, Dont waste even waste your time replying to her text about inane matters. That's not a way to have a ****in conversation. It shows you have nothing better to do. Just call and talk for a bit and let her wonder whats going on with you after you hang up, instead of texts giving her constant little validations.
Real men don't text unless it really is more convenient and it NEVER is when having a conversation.
It's like a guy trying to break down a brick wall with with a hammer when suddenly a new dude comes with a sledgehammer and WRECKS that sh!t, who will the girl be more impressed with?
 

john_trenor

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Chickfight said:
Don't be the guy who does all the things she SAYS she likes.
I mean she took 5 hours to reply to your txt.
I agree. If she takes so long to reply to your text she's either 1) the type of person who expects a lot but does not reciprocate or 2) playing games. From you've said, I think she may be a combination of the two. And, if she's asking stupid question like "did you see any hot girls" when she's clearly interested in you, it simply means that she's playing games ...and that she's not very good at it, lol!

Guys will often wait on purpose before contacting a girl, and a surprisingly large number of girls do the same. If you're not that into her, I'd hold off and keep an eye out for a woman that doesn't come off as .... weird.

However, if you do like her a bit, or just want to see where things go, proceed with caution but don't cross her off your list because of, so far, one misstep (maybe she's a cool girl but just isn't very good at initial flirtation). Just keep doing what you're doing and keep in mind that she only did one weird thing - don't chase. I have a good feeling she'll be coming after you.
 
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