This is going to sound absolutely silly, but it was when I started receiving spiteful texts. Nothing spectacular, as I was used to getting those after a breakup. The difference is I could always tell who had sent them. The spiteful texts I get now could be from several people or from someone I swear I never met. The most memorable one was one I received on Veteran's day that I'm not going to repeat. I laughed super hard and was genuinely amused. I replied "Well, that's not very nice." I totally left it alone after that. The source of my amusement and confusion was that I honestly didn't know what to think! I couldn't even have guessed who sent it.
It was then that I realized "Wow. It could have been anyone I slept with and got a number from, it could have been from one or two plates, ANY of my exes." I had a good laugh with a buddy and told him, "Dude! I'm the guy! I'm that guy women cry about now!" That was also the first time I realized I hadn't had any oneitis for over 3 years. Sometimes you just don't notice the positive changes you've made until someone shakes things up with something similar to a text like that. Or seeing that someone has done something to decorate your property. As the saying goes, "It's the little things in life."