Need some advice from the sosuave bros -
I'll timeline this so it'll hopefully make more sense.
(1-1.5 months earlier this year) - start dating this chick. She shows high interest but says she's not ready for a relationship after I make it known I view her as relationship material about 3-4 weeks in (I've learned). She cooks for me spontaneously, buys me things, moves mountains to see me, shows me off to friends and invites me to her parents.
The night before I was supposed to meet her parents we get into a fight and I go completely AFC and FLIP out on her, calling her every name in the book, said I regret meeting her, get jealous, call 20 times in a row, etc. Terrible.
For about a month after we sort of talk off and on, but she reiterates we'll never be anything.
After running into her after work and walking back to my place, I confess to her I still think about her and have feelings for her. AFTER this she begins initiating texts and even randomly calls me that same night just to chat. Prior to this she wouldn't initiate.
So a few weeks ago we have our first "date" back at her place after she invited me over. It's just like we left it with great conversation, high interest etc which leads to super passionate sex. I leave and we don't talk until 2 days later which I initiated. We hangout a few more times the next week when she says she isn't ready to emotionally invest because she was hurt in a previous 3 yr relationship where the guy acted like I did when I flipped on her.
We hooked up again 2 days later which wasn't as good as she wasn't feeling it that night and afterwards I stupidly say we shouldn't have done that. She says it sucks we just jumped back into what we were, didn't "wooo" each other or date, is unsure if we'll get to the next level and care for each other like we used to.
I'm torn. She tells me things she only tells her close GF/sister so she is comfortable with me. She shares her fears. When we're together it's amazing as we have great chemistry and I make her laugh, she cuddles up to me when watching movies, holds my hand, etc.
Is this a case of low interest or where I need to show her I'm not going to flip out on her again (maybe she's worried I'm like her ex)?
I'll timeline this so it'll hopefully make more sense.
(1-1.5 months earlier this year) - start dating this chick. She shows high interest but says she's not ready for a relationship after I make it known I view her as relationship material about 3-4 weeks in (I've learned). She cooks for me spontaneously, buys me things, moves mountains to see me, shows me off to friends and invites me to her parents.
The night before I was supposed to meet her parents we get into a fight and I go completely AFC and FLIP out on her, calling her every name in the book, said I regret meeting her, get jealous, call 20 times in a row, etc. Terrible.
For about a month after we sort of talk off and on, but she reiterates we'll never be anything.
After running into her after work and walking back to my place, I confess to her I still think about her and have feelings for her. AFTER this she begins initiating texts and even randomly calls me that same night just to chat. Prior to this she wouldn't initiate.
So a few weeks ago we have our first "date" back at her place after she invited me over. It's just like we left it with great conversation, high interest etc which leads to super passionate sex. I leave and we don't talk until 2 days later which I initiated. We hangout a few more times the next week when she says she isn't ready to emotionally invest because she was hurt in a previous 3 yr relationship where the guy acted like I did when I flipped on her.
We hooked up again 2 days later which wasn't as good as she wasn't feeling it that night and afterwards I stupidly say we shouldn't have done that. She says it sucks we just jumped back into what we were, didn't "wooo" each other or date, is unsure if we'll get to the next level and care for each other like we used to.
I'm torn. She tells me things she only tells her close GF/sister so she is comfortable with me. She shares her fears. When we're together it's amazing as we have great chemistry and I make her laugh, she cuddles up to me when watching movies, holds my hand, etc.
Is this a case of low interest or where I need to show her I'm not going to flip out on her again (maybe she's worried I'm like her ex)?