hey guys im in a pretty bad spot right here... its been like a year since i last saw the poussy....and i really need somone to go to prom with lest I appear a social loser who goes with his EX. I like a few of these girls but im not sure wether or not just to walk up and bluntly say, hey want to go to prom with me. My bud is egging me on to just walk up and say it... but im a poussy also i guess cuz i just dont want to... i mean if i ask and they say no theyl know i like em, but they dont, etc etc awkwardness ensues. Should I just walk up and say "prom?" or do i need to do some pre-staging. I'm already anticipating hearing whta I already know... thanks.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Asking to Prom
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
prom is overrated, but whatever... i went to a few and they were okay. you have to ask face-to-face. no texting, no calls.
you gotta change your mindset so you can build some confidence: who gives a sh!t if you get rejected? at least you had the courage to try, which makes you better than a lot of other guys! and realize that there are some girls (who are actually very attractive) who haven't gotten asked yet. i knew some girls in hs (8s and 9s) who had to find dates, from other schools, because no one asked them and they didn't know why. because of AFCs who thought they'd never have a chance, that's why.
Don't be an AFC!! get up and put yourself out there. getting rejected won't be as bad as sitting at home while everyone else is at prom, or going to prom with someone that you don't want to go with. if you know who the girl is and she knows who you are, go and ask. go talk to her and after chatting her up you could say something like, "hey, i was thinking that you would be a fun date. want to go to prom with me?" it indicates that your reason for asking is not b/c you like her (even if you do) but is because the two of you will have a kick as$ time together. if you give a girl the opportunity to say yes, you might be pleasantly surprised.
you gotta change your mindset so you can build some confidence: who gives a sh!t if you get rejected? at least you had the courage to try, which makes you better than a lot of other guys! and realize that there are some girls (who are actually very attractive) who haven't gotten asked yet. i knew some girls in hs (8s and 9s) who had to find dates, from other schools, because no one asked them and they didn't know why. because of AFCs who thought they'd never have a chance, that's why.
Don't be an AFC!! get up and put yourself out there. getting rejected won't be as bad as sitting at home while everyone else is at prom, or going to prom with someone that you don't want to go with. if you know who the girl is and she knows who you are, go and ask. go talk to her and after chatting her up you could say something like, "hey, i was thinking that you would be a fun date. want to go to prom with me?" it indicates that your reason for asking is not b/c you like her (even if you do) but is because the two of you will have a kick as$ time together. if you give a girl the opportunity to say yes, you might be pleasantly surprised.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
If one of them says no, ask another. The ones who said no won't know if you like them or not if you go with somebody.
Personally I think proms and dances and shyt suck. They don't play enough good music at all and it's like a one-night dramatic experience unless you're in a relationship beforehand.
Personally I think proms and dances and shyt suck. They don't play enough good music at all and it's like a one-night dramatic experience unless you're in a relationship beforehand.
jeffthechef
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i too believe prom is overrated...especially jnior prom...but if you don't go..some people like to give you **** ....expensive too...id rather take the girl to my room and we can dance without teachers watching to see if we're doing anything inappropriate...but i see prom as a way to initiate with a girl i haven't gamed yet
i think i'm probably just going to ask if she's going to prom...
USUALLY, NOT ALWAYS
if the girl says yes, and follows it up by saying she has no one to go with...that's her way of saying ask her...if she doesn't mention anything...chances are she doesn't want you to ask her
usually that's how it goes...but by chance she's not very experienced...you may just want to ask who's she's going with rather than if she has someone, less you'll feel bad if she does
i think i'm probably just going to ask if she's going to prom...
USUALLY, NOT ALWAYS
if the girl says yes, and follows it up by saying she has no one to go with...that's her way of saying ask her...if she doesn't mention anything...chances are she doesn't want you to ask her
usually that's how it goes...but by chance she's not very experienced...you may just want to ask who's she's going with rather than if she has someone, less you'll feel bad if she does
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
jeffthechef
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hm..not completely random...iw ould say as long as she knows your name and you guys have spoken at least once...COMPLETELY RANDOM..might be a bad idea
Bluesteak
Don Juan
Hear me out on this one, Prom is in no way guaranteed *****. I was left in the dust and went home after prom because my chick went to some dudes' party and of course I wasn't invited.
That's pretty WTF. You should have been able to go with her.Bluesteak said:Hear me out on this one, Prom is in no way guaranteed *****. I was left in the dust and went home after prom because my chick went to some dudes' party and of course I wasn't invited.
If you go alone, you might be surprised at how many pretty girls you'll find who don't have dates. I was crowned king and my date left me because she was not for me in the first place, but that night I almost found another girl and we chilled the rest of the night. We basically ended up going out over the summer.
When asking out, you want to ask early enough to get the more desirable ones, but if you ask too early, in like October or something, then you look too eager.
When asking out, you want to ask early enough to get the more desirable ones, but if you ask too early, in like October or something, then you look too eager.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.