Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
rkc09 said:hmm....i don't know if b-ball with a female is the best date. Well if she likes to hoop then go for it. But I wouldn't ask her to play basketball. I say you guys meet up at at bowling alley, or the movies, or go to each other's house, or etc. BUT, remember it doesn't matter where you guys go or do as long as you have FUN.
As for asking her. It's simple, just a simple "what are you doing this weekend" is good. If she's not doing anything then ask her out.
Example
You: hey, what are you doing this weekend?
Her: hmmm... nothing, why?
You: Cool, lets play b-ball this Friday
But Basketball isn't a good idea but hey who I'm I to say whats fun. If you like it, she likes it go for IT! Good Luck![]()
danny987 said:how do you ask it? say i wanted to play... idk... basketball!
We should go on a date?
or
hey wanna go play basketball?
or whatever you ask. enlighten me!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.