Asking broads out at the GYM.

[BadNews]

Here's the thing with the direct method that I've always liked...it's a time saver. I feel that either a girl is going to like me or she's not. With the direct approach I'm not wasting my time.

Was it a sure thing every time? Of course not. But neitherwas indirect gaming (no matter what sosuave is, the method is indirect).

You guys seem to make such a big deal out of how to approach women when it's just not that hard. All you gotta do is get over the embarrassing part and approach how you want.

You don't need to use some corny afc line like "you're cute, I had to talk to you" to make your intentions clear. The very act of approaching her and engaging in conversation should be enough - throw in some light flirting (obviously) throughout and she shouldn't have any doubts about your intentions.

It is widely accepted truth that people judge and decide how they feel about someone else within the first 10 seconds of meeting them. First impressions are everything my friend, make the most of it!

You guys seem to make such a big deal out of how to approach women when it's just not that hard. All you gotta do is get over the embarrassing part and approach how you want.

I agree with this. But there are far more suave and enticing ways to approach a woman than a corny line.

suave [swɑːv] Adjective
(esp of a man) displaying smoothness and sophistication in manner or attitude.

"You're cute, I had to meet you." Is hardly the most suave opener I've ever seen.

 

[Purefilth]

I hate this approach - it reeks of AFC to me.


PLEASE come up with something either more creative, or suave.

There is literally nothing "cool" about walking up to a girl and spewing "you're cute I had to meet you" out of your mouth.

I watched your pickup videos, and while I truly applaud you for approaching, you need to have something better to say to get a conversation started.

You are correct about the creating attraction part, and unfortunately being a 20 year old virgin is pretty solid evidence that our friend has been unable to create said "attraction" from any of these numbers he has obtained.

"Hi you're cute I had to meet you." WILL NOT make a girl think "oh, this guy is so attractive" and then proceed to undress you with her eyes.
More likely she will think "Aww, thats kinda cute" or "Umm, ok...this is officially awkward."

suave [swɑːv] Adjective
(esp of a man) displaying smoothness and sophistication in manner or attitude.

my point exactly, just phrased better

 

[bish0p]

Call it what you will...I still don't see the point in discrediting certain techniques...especially when people have had success with it.

It's not like you have to use it. I've had girls use this line on me before...or at least some variant of it. It would always be, hey you look hot, or hey you're sexy so I've done the same thing.

Hell, I've even had some girls call me out on using the line and I ended up sleeping with them.

 

[bish0p]

my point exactly, just phrased better

Don't take this as an insult, but the fact that you're a virgin doesn't exactly help drive the point home.

 

[BadNews]

Nobody said it would fail every single time. The point remains that there are FAR better ways to make a great first impression, create attraction, and engage a woman in conversation than blurting out "you're cute, I had to meet you."

"You're cute, I had to meet you." - To ME seems lame, poorly thought out, and immature. This line is probably killer in high school.

This site is about self improvement (or improving game, w/e). If you want to continue to use the same lame pickup, when there is CLEARLY a better approach, then so be it. I choose to hold myself to a higher standard, and it pays off. I encourage everyone on this site to hold themselves to a higher standard as well. If you want quality women, you're going to have to make a quality impression. If you want to make an impact, you're going to have to BE the higher standard. The above does not accomplish this nearly as well as a multitude of other ways to approach an attractive woman.

 

[bish0p]

Nobody said it would fail every single time. The point remains that there are FAR better ways to make a great first impression, create attraction, and engage a woman in conversation than blurting out "you're cute, I had to meet you."

Damn I hate being on my phone because it's a bltch to copy and paste the definition of "subjectivity."

 

[Purefilth]

Don't take this as an insult, but the fact that you're a virgin doesn't exactly help drive the point home.

32 -

no fatties,
3virgins,
3 milfs,
4x 5/10, the rest were 7 - 9 [10/10 doesn't exist](maybe a couple of 6's depending on beer goggles)
and 4 were LTR(6months +)

actually 33 now with 3 new plates coming into rotation.

lost my cherry at 15 mate

Sageproduct is the virgin if you'd read the rest of the thread you'd know that.

 

[spiegel549]

Guys I appreciate the posts. Seriously though save the arguing for another time. What works for one might not work for another. Please if you have personally approached women in the gym and have used certain openers then feel free to post. If not, don't post lol.

SO anyone have any good openers? You see a cute girl, you make the approach...what do you say???

Anddddd go!

 

[bish0p]

actually 33 now with 3 new plates coming into rotation.

lost my cherry at 15 mate

Sageproduct is the virgin if you'd read the rest of the thread you'd know that.

My mistake then, I misread it.

And since we're throwing out numbers I've been with over 20 women (which I know is not a lot compared to many) and about a tons of *******s...although you lost your virginity 1 year before me.

Some were fatties, some were thin, some were milfs, some were young, some were extremely attractive and some not.

So, whatever the case is, something is working for you, but something is working for me as well.

As long as the results are the same, what's the problem.

 

[bish0p]

Guys I appreciate the posts. Seriously though save the arguing for another time. What works for one might not work for another. Please if you have personally approached women in the gym and have used certain openers then feel free to post. If not, don't post lol.

SO anyone have any good openers? You see a cute girl, you make the approach...what do you say???

Anddddd go!

Hey you look good enough to fvck.....I kid I kid.

Although there was a book out at one time called mode 1 that pushed that very technique.

 

[Purefilth]

Guys I appreciate the posts. Seriously though save the arguing for another time. What works for one might not work for another. Please if you have personally approached women in the gym and have used certain openers then feel free to post. If not, don't post lol.

SO anyone have any good openers? You see a cute girl, you make the approach...what do you say???

Anddddd go!

I am going to eat your soul!

^ dont forget the deep whisper voice, creepy stare and butchers knife!


No really -

Say hi i'm spiegel - then when she replies comment on something you notice about her. Foreign chicks - accent is a good one


Who Where when what why how

^ there are good starts to sentences - follow through with anything that pops into your head.

gym - mid convo ->"i was gonna look into rock climbing have you tried it?"

That worked for me today, grabbed a number and promised to call her when I had time.

Just plucked a random thing Ive not done in a while and checked if she would be interested.

Yes = ok, so she's up for something new, active, that I would enjoy - take the number.

 

[Purefilth]

As long as the results are the same, what's the problem.

no problems now the threads back on track

 

[irocknike23]

Me personally I never picked up girls at the gym because I go dressed like a bum to the gym all the time(wear shorts from middle school days sometimes)

But reason is I use gym to get away from everything and to clear my mind where its me myself and I...


But having said that there are some fine looking women at the gym from time to time

 

[Mr. Bond]

I tend not to approach at the gym. It has very little to do with them and very much to do with me. When I'm at the gym, I'm focused. I don't want to chat. I'm in the fvcking zone. If the hottest woman I've ever seen came up to me during my set, I'd be pissed. I don't want to talk to her. I'm busy.

If I'm on my way in or out, I may chat up the girls at the desk. But that's about it. I'd prefer to meet women elsewhere.

 

[yuppaz]

I've done it a lot. Remember that you may very well see them again often, so be more indirect and run very slow game unless in the course of conversation you find out she is only on vacation or business then balls to the wall.

Don't tell her she's cute, do ask her if you can jump in for a set, do chat her up and plan to work out together (low key, friendly to start)