Asking a girl out who has a boyfriend? Whats the best way?

[mindripper06]

Look I would love to ask girls out who dont have a boyfriend, but I'm into 9's and 10's. And as we know, 9's and 10's are never single. Ever.

OK so where I work I get to meet a lot of 9's and 10's, and unfortunately I also get to meet their boyfriends.

Some of these girls give me seductive looks when I see them ALONE without their boyfriends. I'm tall, good looking and physically in good shape. My inner game though isnt that good, I admit. And in my mind I'm thinking "I can't ask her out even though she is giving me signs of interest. She'll think I'm a complete tool. I just talked to her and her boyfriend the other day. I don't want her to stop thinking I'm a nice guy, and if I ask her out she'll think I'm a tool, or worse than that, she'll think I'm some kind of creepy weirdo".

Is there any justification to my thinking? I mean, these girls arent married, right? Is it that big a deal if I ask some of them out knowing they are "with someone"? Another thing I'm thinking is "she'll tell her boyfriend if I ask her out, and then he'll come over and try to start a fight with me". Would a girl who found me attractive, but had a boyfriend, tell her boyfriend if I asked her out? Like do you think she'd say "Hey you know that guy who works at (wherever)...he asked me out today you know!!" would a girl do that?

I wanna ask some of these girls out and I KNOW some of them give me looks and signs of interest, but I'm afraid because they have boyfriends. What should I do?

 

[Exhumed]

Don't "ask her out." Ask her to join you for a fun activity, you can even specify that it's not a date and you're going as friends if you want. Make sure it's not something where you're paying or where you'd be expected to pay, like a lame dinner or movie. Then she's like "What? Friends? He should be into me, I'm hot!" which only helps your cause

Oh, and yeah, it is a **** thing to do. But if you don't someone else will! Get that nut!

 

[dude04]

you're doing this all wrong. for *****es who are considered 9s and 10s, you give them the look and you ask the boyfriend for his number, not the *****es.

that way the *****es think you are gay. since they already got the hots for you, they will want to make you straight.

 

[Duffdog]

You don't really ask those type of girls out, you say things like "I have VIP at ____, you should come hang with me at my booth" or whatever it is that you like to do.

 

[Bobby Rio]

Never trust a girl with a boyfriend... they love the attention... love it. But when push comes to shove its like pulling teeth to get them to hang out.

 

[mindripper06]

Never trust a girl with a boyfriend... they love the attention... love it. But when push comes to shove its like pulling teeth to get them to hang out.

Then how do you nail the 9's and 10's? They all have boyfriends, right?

 

[mindripper06]

You don't really ask those type of girls out, you say things like "I have VIP at ____, you should come hang with me at my booth" or whatever it is that you like to do.

Are you serious or joking?

What if I asked her to get a drink with me after work? Would that be bad?

 

[katatonia]

Just game her like she doesn't have a boyfriend... it's just a stupid label anyway. It will only fail if she is helplessly 'in love' with her boyfriend already, which is rare.

 

[S. Pryor]

You really wanna go after these girls after knowing for certain they have boyfriends? I can understand the appeal but it kind of soils things once you actually meet that muthafucka, for me anyways. Despite the fact that I understand the appeal, it is quite dangerous. You don't know what's going on in that dudes mind and I get sick of seeing guys get a clip dumped on em cause they was messin with somebody elses chick.

 

[nismo-4]

All hot women cheat dammit!

These women are more than likely with luvy-duvy AFC boyfriends. Hot women will cheat and sleep with any bad boy they find unless the boyfriend already is.

Don't ask the girl to hang out or on a date. Suggest that you are going somewhere fun and ask her to join.

Case closed.

 

[Gman Jiujitsu]

you're very pretty does you're boyfriend tell you that haha

 

[jocca]

All hot women cheat dammit!

These women are more than likely with luvy-duvy AFC boyfriends. Hot women will cheat and sleep with any bad boy they find unless the boyfriend already is.


Case closed.

Why would a HB9/10 be with a luvy-duvy AFC man. Pretty obvious the guy has something going for him and in most cases much more than the guys who are trying to pull these lame tactics.

 

[SharinganUser]

If a woman is attracted to you, she will be single. If she is not attracted to you, she has a boyfriend.

 

[Die Hard]

I don't want her to stop thinking I'm a nice guy

You're literally admitting that you want her to think of you as a nice guy! You're obviously an AFC, man (not saying this to bring you down). You need to work at your inner game, read "The Book of Pook" and flip the switch in your head. After you've done that, you should just try to f*ck all those horny b*tches. Coz that's what you should do and what you really want to do! You wanna destroy their p*ssies with your mighty c*ck!! But if you attempt to do that right now, you'll probably fail coz your mind isn't "free" yet. Your mind has to be 100% behind your actions and that is not the case right now. So forget about all these chicks for now and go read "The Book of Pook" and free your mind first. Then you come back to this situation and deal with these chicks, not a minute earlier.

 

[nismo-4]

Why would a HB9/10 be with a luvy-duvy AFC man. Pretty obvious the guy has something going for him and in most cases much more than the guys who are trying to pull these lame tactics.

These guys probably have mad money and status to a greater degree than looks.

When you got mad money you can easily get a trophy girlfriend/ wife. As for those who pull these lame tactics...ugh!

But read SharinganUser's answer. Rep for him!

 

[SamMalone]

Jesus, is every guy in the world besides the people that post on this forum AFC? Maybe her boyfriend is F*cking Pook for all we know.

Anyways, I wouldn't ask her out. I normally would if it was just me and her and she had a boyfriend, but you said you met the guy right? If you met me and my girl, then asked her out when I wasn't there, I would think you are a coward and a chump. Doing something like this is not Don Juan or AFC....its just not manly.

Plus, you don't know if this girl is attracted to you. You keep posting that she is, but she probably isn't. Most girls that have boyfriends will flirt for attention, especially when he isn't around. And you don't know her boyfriend well. He could be an AFC....he could have just gotten out of prison for assualting a guy that asked out his girlfriend. Really, man, there are just too many factors going against you in this situation.

 

[K2000kidd]

Three things you mentioned.
1.She has a boyfriend
2.Boyfriend has actually met you
3.You met this girl where you work

For me number three is reason enough not to pursue it
if this goes sour she can RUIN you and if she's gets uncomfortable
having you around and is THAT hot, the manager will likely can you for
something performance related just to keep her happy.

Even worse she could easily play the SEXUAL HARRASSMENT card
and gets half your coworkers to say you were giving her a hard time
or creeping her out.

You won't collect unemployment cause you were fired for cause
Good luck trying to find a job in this economy and getting
a good reference for future employers

i have personally heard managers smear people to potential employers
and likely got an employee black balled from being hired somewhere.
But hey you could always work at 7-11 if she's worth it

 

[drak_ool]

sorry to crash your fantasies but from the feel i get out of this thread, at this point in your life you do not have the game it takes to pull a hb 9 or 10 from her boyfriend. If they smile at you, maybe you have the looks to do it, so start working on improving yourself first, then worry about getting the super hotties.

You seem to have some serious inner game flaws (what s all that talk about them not seeing you as a nice guy?). Until you work those out you will not get the girls you want or, even worst, if you do get the girls you will not be able to keep them, with all the ensuing heartbreak.

EDIT: just noticed K2000kidd's post. He hit the specifics of why NOT to go for this particular girl right on... The boyfriend (and his friends) will always know where to find you

 

[zekko]

is every guy in the world besides the people that post on this forum AFC? Maybe her boyfriend is F*cking Pook for all we know.

Lol, I've had thoughts along this line too. Not everyone who doesn't study seduction is an AFC. Remember, some guys are just good with women naturally, or had good role models as fathers. The people who came up with a lot of this psychological dating stuff like negs got it from watching guys who were good with women, seeing what they did, and figuring out why it worked. And it is a pretty mainstream idea that as a guy you shouldn't be acting insecure. So there are a lot of guys out there who are naturals.

That said, HB9s love attention and they know how to get it. These girls would probably like nothing better than to make an orbiter out of you. They may very well be willing to screw around on their boyfriend or branch swing. I agree with drak ool though, you need to get your game together if you are going to try for girls of this calibre, and you're better off not getting involved with girls you work with.

 

[Axcell]

I hate guys like this.
There has to be some mutual respect amongst guys. If she'd leave him for you so quickly, what makes you think she won't do the same to you?