article: What I Learned Dating The 1%

[MatureDJ]

http://www.playboy.com/articles/dating-one-percent

 

[zekko]

A few quotes and comments on the article:

"BEING RETIRED IS BORING AF"

I've always heard, and always agreed with, the saying that boredom is the sign of a shallow mind. What she did with her time was her decision. If she wanted to fritter away her time instead of following her passions or accomplishing something, that was her choice. Also, she was living off of her boyfriend's money - a quite different feeling, I'm sure, as opposed to having earned it yourself. In any case, in her current life, which she supposedly finds so fulfilling, she is a waitress. I believe any work is honorable, but I can't believe she finds being a waitress so preferable to earning millions of dollars.

"Here’s the thing about the super-rich—they don’t get to where they are without having to manipulate a ****-ton of people....<snip>.... I couldn’t help but feel like I was being bullied in a very, very subtle way.

That may be true, but I find it interesting that she resented feeling manipulated - considering PUA gurus
love to push the idea that women love psychopaths and the machievellian.

 

[ohrein]

I find it very odd that a woman with her self-proclaimed traits and wisdom would end up in a gold digger relationship. Just further confirmation of hypergamy, I suppose.

 

[bigneil]

I can't believe she finds being a waitress so preferable to earning millions of dollars.

I bet she got dumped around age 30 and is now trying to reverse engineer a story as to why she's happier now.

 

[DiegoSantori]

"And if you’re a man who tends to lead with his money, don’t be surprised if you’re attracting shallow women who like stuff."

If you know who you attract and why you attract them, I don't see the problem with shallow women who like stuff. As long as you don't expect them to love you for your personality and you both have fun, everything is fine IMHO. People are perceiving you as winning, you can spend some quality time with beautiful women, they can buy the latest Gucci handbags. Win-win-situation.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

"And if you’re a man who tends to lead with his money, don’t be surprised if you’re attracting shallow women who like stuff."

If you know who you attract and why you attract them, I don't see the problem with shallow women who like stuff. As long as you don't expect them to love you for your personality and you both have fun, everything is fine IMHO. People are perceiving you as winning, you can spend some quality time with beautiful women, they can buy the latest Gucci handbags. Win-win-situation.

We had a discussion bout this. It's still best even if you have money to have a body good enough that she is also physically attracted. You run the danger of these babes being around you for cash, and maybe some not well to do hard body for the physical stuff. None of us want this. Having cash is great. But also physically attract them.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

She wasn't happy because she never worked for anything and didnt feel that she deserved it. She didn't have a purpose either. When you have too much that you didn't work for, or too little that you worked more than, thats when you become depressed. Either way, you still are pvssy. Time to toughen up.

Also, $250,000,000 is NOT the top 1%. That's like the top 0.000001%. The top 1% is above $500,000 (or $400,000 though I'd have to check again). Just goes to show you a women's viewpoint on who is and who isn't rich....and this b!tch is fvcking waitress too now, AGAIN. You'd think that she would understand the value of money by now, especially after dating one of the richest dudes in the world....

 

[BeExcellent]

She sounds like a pretty girl who wasn't from an affluent background and didn't feel either comfortable or worthy of being in that role. Water always seeks its own level. She's happier now because she is comfortable waiting tables and doing freelance writing. She wanted control of her own affairs because she wasn't comfortable being part of his, she didn't like submitting and deferring to him (she is a feminist!), but she isn't going to come right out and say that in Playboy magazine.

She states that people who get rich manipulate tons of people, and that is true in some cases and to some degree, but no one gets rich if there is no demand for what the rich person is hawking, whether it be technology, natural resources, financial acumen, athletic ability, legal advice, widgets, housing, etc. etc. I do think she confuses the ability to negotiate well with manipulation, but that is just my opinion.

A rich person should not ever need to apologize for having attained something that many dream about, but few actually do. Because of her own experiences she projects that ALL rich people treat others as objects. This simply is not true.

One absolute truth in the woman's article is that money cannot buy class.

Also as @ImDoubleGreatest! pointed out she was dating at much higher level of wealth than the 1%. I date almost exclusively in the 1% myself and I do not have the negative experiences she notes, but I am also close to the 1% myself, so I've actually accomplished something on my own and I don't relate at all to much of what she is saying. I see many of her own insecurities displayed in the article.

I will say I dislike it when a man leads too much with money and stuff because I see that as a crutch and a turnoff, much like this girl didn't think she really was deserving of the guy's lifestyle, many men do not feel deserving of a good/beautiful/successful woman for whatever reason; they do not feel like they themselves are enough and this presents itself as leading with "stuff" and money but really it is two sides of the same insecure, 'I feel somehow inadequate' coin. So they lead off supplicating with a display of material things.

This type of man also often seeks a beautiful but damaged/shallow woman, a gold-digger, someone who will make him look better to others, but this is simply another source of external validation and status for him and he will use her for validation just as the gold-digger uses him for "stuff" and social status. So they seek each other in many instances. That has been my observation at any rate in affluent circles.

So we are back at the tome of be your best authentic self, which this forum does a good job of promoting.

Relationships amongst the wealthy seem to fall generally into 1 of 2 categories, 1 being a good partnership where both people contribute to the good of the relationship, the expected roles, the associated business endeavors, and the social obligations thereof, and look first to the benefit of the relationship and the business; or 2 where you have 2 users using each other. Rarely you might see a group 2 couple become a group 1 couple if they grow to actually respect each other over time, but type 1 couples usually start out that way and stay that way, and obviously they are more authentic and more rare in my experience to come across.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She wasn't happy because she never worked for anything and didnt feel that she deserved it. She didn't have a purpose either. When you have too much that you didn't work for, or too little that you worked more than, thats when you become depressed. Either way, you still are pvssy. Time to toughen up.

Also, $250,000,000 is NOT the top 1%. That's like the top 0.000001%. The top 1% is above $500,000 (or $400,000 though I'd have to check again). Just goes to show you a women's viewpoint on who is and who isn't rich....and this b!tch is fvcking waitress too now, AGAIN. You'd think that she would understand the value of money by now, especially after dating one of the richest dudes in the world....

Basically, but they never do. Just like a stripper, she will always put her value over that of her sugar daddy or rich boyfriend. So it's almost a bad relationship by design for the man of means.

And a waitress/bartender, they navigate just like strippers, multiple numbers daily, talking to a whole bunch of guys at once, just a bunch of trouble.

 

[guru1000]

Meh, those who had money and lost it (although she really never had), appreciate money even more. Her "asceticism" is cute but unlikely a condition spawn by her own volition. In other words, as the decline begun and her prime just a memory, she got dumped.

 

[bigneil]

"And if you’re a man who tends to lead with his money, don’t be surprised if you’re attracting shallow women who like stuff."

If you know who you attract and why you attract them, I don't see the problem with shallow women who like stuff. As long as you don't expect them to love you for your personality and you both have fun, everything is fine IMHO. People are perceiving you as winning, you can spend some quality time with beautiful women, they can buy the latest Gucci handbags. Win-win-situation.

Both sides have been shamed in the resources for eggs swap, but neither should. That's why it's called the world's oldest profession.